Hey everyone,

So heres the scoop. Im 18, Im a Music Producer/Writer and I live in LA. I've had a lack of confidence with girls my entire life and have always have an awful time making things happen. In my career, with friends etc, I have ounces of confidence but when it comes to girls I fall FLAT on my face..

I tend to end up in a few similar situations EVERY time I approach a girl or DONT approach a girl and I figured Id come to you all and see if you could help me figure out what Im doing wrong.

1. Im afraid to make a move at all. - I see a girl when Im out and about and instead of making a movie or even saying HI I become shy/stalkerish and just allow myself to loose control of the situation and nothing happens.

2. I meet a girl and really like her but I end up as the "happy go lucky/good guy/best friend/etc" - For some reason when I approach a girl after meeting her in what ever way or another I end up as just the friend and nothing more. "Don't see you like that", etc. Those are the typical reactions. Im a very open guy with very little mystery left and I know that is probably part of it.

3. I feel like I try and rush things.

ANYTHING you can offer as advice means a lot to me.

Best,
MPLA

You probably show way more interest in the girl than she does towards you. Nothing repulses a girl more than a guy throwing himself at her. Every AFC guy does this.

Definitely conversate with them. Don't tip your hand. If you're interested, act casual. Girls love a challenge!

I guarentee your right and I def. need to work on this...BUT. I feel there is still something else I must be doing wrong because even when I have done this it doesnt work...