I've had discussions on here about facing fears of oneitis and just acting highly passionate, and was requested to give results of my tests.

Well, one thing about stepping in new waters you won't know what to expect. But even though I did not get the girl, I did get the experience.

When discussing what happened, even she herself said "I need to be seduced, I love to chase and not knowing if I have a chance, and when you confess strong feelings, I get scared and lose interest, but don't worry, there are many girls in the city".

Being real about my feelings did lose her interest, but it did lead to real answers, which most guys I hear are begging for (answers they can't accept). If I had stayed confused in my own oneitis world in absolute fear of oneitis, I prolly would have just acted irratic experiencing those emotions and believing I should not be feeling how I'm feeling, and asking on here "how do I stop oneitis???", and would have just ended up having her completely ignoring me giving me a "wtf could I do?! What is wrong with me?" attitude.

Now I have peace of mind, and I've faced my fear of oneitits. Now I needs to get back into the game without this girl in mind. She may want me again, she may not! Where it stands now, she's the last thing my mind will have to be on while I face my fear of approaching new women.

Try it sometime, next time you get feelings of oneitis, act on every impulse you have, and just ride the waves, because when the storm is over, you'll feel a sense of confidence just for doing it. (who gives a shit if you lose the girl, there's always another one)

The probabilities of a oneitis highly rise with the use of nlp/hypnosis, picking-up and sarging

cf. neil strauss book where after being initiated to hypnosis and picking up he develops a bad case of oneitis, then mystery with the russian girl
Note: at the beginning of the book mystery is at the clinic no more alert than a vegetable.

and i'm sure the examples are rich and variant but still take core in that similarity that is : if you do nlp/hypnosis the chances you will never be able to be cool about many aspects of your life, including a life with a partner, skyrock

and what is weird in all that is, the more you got issues, the more you'll be offered to use them voodoo tricks

and on and on

when the solution (nlp/hypnosis) becomes a bigger problem (mental health) than the initial one (mating)

vicious ha...

can we reasonably say something evil is something destroying you ?

your mind is the last rampart protecting you, if it falls, you're done.
Cause that's the last thing that let you see you're extinguishing.

Do not use any of that nlp/hypnosis, pick-up, sarging stuff.

Ask your friends and family if they know a cool woman you can make your life with and live a good life.

I have to disagree, you can find the best girl in the world for you, but your lack of experience will cause you to lose her. It happened to me, several times and now I'm pissed frankly.

This may seem like a strange way to model the scenario but bear with me.

All women are attracted to firefighters, the degree to which you resemble a firefighter is different with each one, because everyone has their own taste. Now most guys are born with the firefighters walk, posture,... maybe the dad was a veteran firefighter and the kid just picked up the traits through mimicry and genetics. Some guys are dropped into this world and they are 100% electricians... well what girl wants that? NONE!!!

So as an electrician you can go around and do your best to act like a fireman.

Fake it until you make it!

But you will be faking it and most women pick up on this. You've never been a fireman so you have no idea how to be one, its not impossible, but if you want to keep a woman around, you MUST be a fireman, because an electrician acting like a fireman WILL NEVER keep a woman around.

Its a shitty situation in my point of view, but I'll do it, because in 23 years its become clear to me that its the only way, I've tried and failed because I was trying to change the world into what I thought it should be... you something a little less fucked up and cruel, but you can't change the world. You have to be smart enough to know that you have to change, at least enough to get what you want.

When I'm in a situation, where I think my PUA actions might hurt someone, I just think back to all the times I got burned because I wanted to be the nice guy rather than the douche. It makes those decisions easier and the payoff is soo much better.