Or, did I fk up?

Primer: I live in a socially isolated place but I own a fast car.

That's why I use dating sites. Well I got to talk with this girl online, it got wild and we were soon talkin (private messages) nearly every night. It was very sexual talk. We planned to see whenever it was possible (I'm extremely busy and my calendar is a mess). Well eventually we got to meet and everything went well. But I was a bit worried because I feel that too much intimacy for too long at first date would not be a good thing. We spent three days together.

So. Maybe it was a mistake to deal like that. Afterwards we were going to see again. We both wanted it. So here of course enters buyers remorse or whatever. I live far away and so on. She's flirty, sometimes to me, even. But mainly to other guys on facebook. I feel that keeping the distance is usually good, but I wonder does it do any good, when she's losing the spark but there's plenty of other guys to give attention and all that....

I'm new to online game. Is this typical?

So I guess my exact question is how to maintain intimacy and attraction on fb and else in a situation like this? I don't want to do the too obvious thing, flirting with other girls or some triangle building. It doesn't work here. Besides I'm too mature for that. I'm about 15 years older than the girl.

42 views and 0 replies. I guess there are not many experts on this forum.

But even if you are not an expert, I'd appreciate your honest opinion.

Honestly Whip, it's not really an online question. You've met this girl and stayed with her 3 times...Facebook is not the way to keep intimacy. Text messaging, phone game and having her come visit you is your best bet.

Facebook is great for flirting and getting phone numbers, after that it lacks the power of a cell #.

Yeah. Text messaging and phone was ok until she dropped it suddenly. Why, I don't know. Now she seems to spend her time online. On fb. I'm angry to myself because I'm on the verge of getting jealous feelings. But, on some level I know she might be just lonely. Maybe it's excitement she's after and as I have built comfort now I'm not that exciting.

But I'm curious what happened in a week or so. And it may well be that I lost the game. Still: why was I able to keep it up online before we met and now I'm not?

I know that online game is mainly get-to-meet vehicle. In my case it happens to be that I live and work in social isolation, sad but true. I'm not giving up though, I look forward to maintain positive outlook.

Ok this may be AFC but there could be someone who can relate to this