Me and my gf broke up around three months ago, she was my world. You cant even imagine. I dont need to go in detail about the break up, but its been really hard for, i cant stop thinking about it, and I talk about it a lot to my friends because I just dont believe it and im in a lot of pain.

I see the way she talks to me now, i feel like i drove her away because I kept trying, all the time, trying to get her back, I am telling you, I dont think I will ever ever find a girl i will love as much, ever. And this kills me. Please get me on the right track, i get moment where im happy and fine, but then im just... miserable. I was told to erase her from my life, phone, facebook, everything. But i dont want to do that incase the day she wants to talk to me, she wants to want me back.

Will she ever? We are in different countries now, but it doenst stop me.

Please Help

yes u did. you were needy and that throws girls off. she doesn't want needy guy. she needs somebody who is confident. there is also might be an obsession. and its not love. u just being obsessed. trust me i've been there. get over it. go to gym, or party and find other hot girls. there might be some techniques how to turn her back but i don't know them yet. ask some of the experienced pua's or write gambler.

Same boat for me man, I've found that if you dont want to completely erase her just hide her on facebook and her friends which she would talk to and would show up on your feed and make you think of her. In your phonebook on your phone, put a "Z" in front of her name so she doesnt show up when you are texting or scrolling through. Other than that, stay strong and busy and hang out with friends and new girls. The thrill of having new girls liking you helps to ease the pain of thinking you "lost the one".

I was in the same situation like you man bofore 2 years ago i now exactly how do you feel man.
For me this love shit end when i seen her kissing some dude in club after six months of broke up(still loved her add this time).This day i deleted her from my life,best filling ever after so much pain.
The next day i have feel like new born baby.
My advise to you is just stop man its not worth pain cut the contact complete of and go life again.This love thing gona pass just trust me.

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But why do i cut her out of my life if I want this girl back in it!? How do I make her want me back. I dont want to cut a person out of my life that I love so much.

you live in different countries now??

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Always remember, practice makes perfection!!

Listen, many if not all men have been in your shoes.. even I..

It may very well be that you want her back, and that you should get back to her..

But it may also be that you are no good for each other..

You gotta think long and hard about it..

Do you still love her? Why? Why do you want her back? Do you want or need her back? Is it in need, afraid of being alone, that you want her back? Or is it because you truely feel, without neediness, without you thinking "she can feel all my needs", that you want her back?. Its ver y complex, and only you can find the answer..

Good luck man.. Time will always show us the truths!. But you gotta hunt the truth, because you never know if you waited to long..

Alternativily, if she seeks you ect.. you can talk with her about it.. Not in a needy way, just explain to each other how you feel now...

PS: In two different countries, if she seeks you, perhaps talk over SPAM, see how you guys swing.. Then you might conclude together, that you gonna see eachother in some holiday... But give it some time, it takes time to heal the heart, that might be the only thing you need..

I know i thought at a time that i lost the best thing in my life.. then i found something better

If she wants you back, she'll find you, but there's nothing you're going to be able to do to make her come back to you. In fact, the only thing you can do at this point is drive her further away.

I know it sucks...my last long term relationship took nearly 2 years to fully get over, but it does happen in time. I don't know how long you two were together, but 3 months isn't really very long to get over someone you thought was "the one".

Be patient with yourself, but you've got to adjust your mindset on this. The goal isn't getting her back and feeling like you'll die if you don't. The sooner you deal with the harsh reality that the two of you aren't together any more, the sooner you'll accept that and move on. Good luck. [/i]

That gives it away right there. Girls dont want to be your world. They want you to be the oak tree and they are the little squirell running around it to quote from the blueprint. I know it sucks right now but i would think about what you can learn from this.

You need to be the source of good emotions and happiness, not somebody or something else. Its not easy but once you get there you will be fighting off the girls.

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Man I was in your shoes once, I cried like 3 times a day over this chick lol,
What I would do is delete her from facebook, and get rid of ANY and EVERYTHING she gave you, and meet new chicks, and give it some time man, but dont forget too end any traces in your life that refer too her
and yes as a guy above me said, just ACCEPT that you and her will not be together everrr anymore, like he said once ,and once you do that, you're well on your way too getting over her, and yes thats a big step, don't think that you still have a chance, or that you guys will get together again, NO fully accept that its over and DONE.

If you don't cut her out of your life you will be hanging on too that little thread of hope, which will leave you in pain as long as you let it exist

you know alot of these guys are responding to you with similar things because what they are saying is true, I just got out of an almost 4 year relationship, I was engaged, she was my whole world too, but its not ment to be man, if you are not her whole world, which she obviously is showing, its not worth your energy worrying about someone who doesnt feel the same.

A good way that helped me cope is to not focus on any good times you shared, when thinking of her focus on only the pain you feel of how the situation turned out. If you keep thinking about "the good times" it will make the bad times feel 10 times worse believe me.

You want to know how to get her back? Once you feel complete and comfortable with yourself, and no longer care about what she does or is doing, the next time she talks to you when you are like that, she will want you, just to see if she can get you back.

Thats the game they play friend. When that time comes, you may not even want to bother, sure there will be that old feeling again that pops up, but as i said, remembering the pain it caused you, you wont be suprised to find yourself shrugging her off.

There are ways to get her back, most of it I just explained above, but here are some suggestions, stop answering her texts, calls or messages, do absolutly no favours, DO NOT EVER BRING UP ANYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH THE RELATIONSHIP, if its gets brought up it should be her that brings anything up, and you want to end that subject real fast.

Gotta stop thinkin like a wussy man, not saying this to be mean, I had to take my own words about this and force feed them into my system the last few months because I was being the biggest wuss on the planet.

Hope this helped a bit

You're right. I can't possibly imagine how she was like your entire world, since I don't even know this chick, and how can I know about a world I've never visited?

Anyway, you're doing everything wrong right now. We're not going to do a single fucking thing for you. We're going to tell you what you should be doing for yourself. Until you take responsibility for the problem, nothing will happen.

Break all contact. You don't need to win her back, and the way you're going on, you won't. Of course, you can change that if you choose to and commit to. Find some good music you like. Take up an activity that you're passionate about.

The key to this entire process is being too busy and happy to get depressed. If you talk to her even once, you will probably fuck it up. Don't have down time.

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you said this girl was 'your world' - that was your first mistake - you made her 'your world' - is this because you didnt have much in your life before you met her? or because you abandoned every other thing in your life (friends, activities etc) to be with her??
do not ever make another person 'your world' - you yourself need to be a fully rounded, 'happy in your own self' balanced person with 'a life', in order that other people find you attractive and good to be around

if, from this point onwards, you concentrate on filling 'your world' with more things than her, you will feel happier and better, whether you get her back in your life or not.

It is also 'possible' that if she sees this new better you she may want you back. But that should not be the reason why you do this.

What i am sure of tho, is that if it turns out that she doesnt want you back, then you will be happier anyway plus other girls will certainly find the 'new you' more attractive - so its like a win-win situation really huh?

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I need your opinion, I couldnt take it anymore, I spoke to her on facebook chat, she didnt really seemed to bothered to talk to me. I brought me and her up again and she said that she cant talk to me because we just talk about us and we cant have a normal conversation. She said that I need to get over it and that I have pushed her so far away.

I sent her an inbox, and I said, It kills me that you view me in this light and your sick of me, when once upon a time i put smiles on your face non stop. I said that she is a great girl with great dreams and they will come true if she works hard, and I said she taught me how to open up, and love. I said im sorry for fighting to hard after we broke and not giving her space, because I thought me and her were special and I loved her. I also said that she was the best I ever had, and im sure one day she will think the same.

I blocked heron facebook (already deleted her on SPAM and her number). At first I was happy, but then I began to doubt my decision. If she ever wanted me back she cant contact me. She cant see what im up to. She might not even care, she might not give a shit and this makes her easier for her to forget about me. She might view me in an immature way. I dont know what I am doing. Or what I should do, or what I did was the right thing