Ok so went out to dinner on Friday night with this girl I've been chasing after for about a month now. We've been out on one date already and seen each other around through work things a couple of times. Anyway, it went well, we talked all night, lots of eye contact etc. Trouble is she lives miles out of town, and so do I in the other direction too.

Problem 1. The kiss:

When we said goodbye we were close to each other and kissed goodbye. However its the kiss I've got a problem with. I've only ever had this trouble with this girl and the same happened on our first date. Normally I read it well and things go fine and I really wanted to give her a nice kiss especially after not really being able to after her first date. Not a tongue down the throat job, but a gentle playing with her lips number.

So the kiss we actually ended up having was an on the lips one. Not the sort you would give to a friend, but definitely not the sort that suggests we want to knock each other through the headboard. Then I went in again and did exactly the same thing. Now the problem I think I have is that I like her and I think this means that I'm worried about stepping over this boundary.

What do you guys think? Do girls like these sort of kisses? May be its the perfect kiss as its building up some sexual tension, at least I know it is in me anyway!

I'm hoping to see her again this week, so I will definitely up my game on the kino, and go for a proper kiss at the end of the meet.

**EDIT** she said she had a 'nice' time. 'Nice' - its a bit pffft isn't it? Or am I reading too much into this?

Problem 2. Cute

So the following day we text each other, and she asks me what I've been up to, to which I reply I've been with my god-daughter carving pumpkins. Yes, its true, thats what I was doing.

She replies back "thats soooo cute", which yes it is, but should she be thinking I do cute things? I've been conditioned to fear this word. What's more, she said she wanted one which I joked that I would make her one.

So problem 2: Cute - am I in trouble, or is this cool in building an emotional connection. Also as an aside, should I actually carve her a pumpkin as a bit of a joke??

wow dude... you are reading WAYYYYY to deeply into this, i suggest you step down a bit and get your head straight, try dating a couple other girls as well

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You DHVd yourself with the pumpkin carving thing.

About the kiss, try to slip in a little tongue and leave her wanting for more.
If you're sure you won't be 'knocking each other through the headboard'. (made me laugh)

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Cheers fellas, yeah know where you're coming from, I think I have thought about it way too much.

Good point about the dhv, hadn't thought about it like that. Will let things take their course

Your doin good man, dont stress about these things. DGAF it. When you dont care, you do the right things, you say the right things.

When she says its cute, thats not a bad thing. Just dont acknowledge and continue to have fun with your convo's.

Kissing... learn where to place your hands on her (neck, face, etc.) when you grab her to kiss. This will let her know you two are going to be lockin together. dont pull away. if she does the wierd quick kiss thing, hold her in place and breath on her a second or two, continue the kiss from derrrr.

Keep on man.

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I also would not carve her a pumpkin. Just wastes time if nothing works out. But your the judge, you know the chick. Whenever a girl wants you to do something, make them do something for you in return or else they will think to themselves, "why the hell is this guy doing this?". That also applies for giving compliments. Only give compliments when they earn them, dont just blurt em out or they will think the same thing. same principle.

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Dude, if you dont have the confidence when your lips are already on her, you're never going to have the confidence to be giving her the best sex she has ever had!

Each step is a risk, if it was certain it would be boring...Its called romance!

If she didnt want to kiss you then, she never would.. Take the step and dont look back..