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How many of the girls you closed this way have actually met you for a day 2?
I bet 99% of them flaked.
Asking for a number that early is pointless. A number doesn't mean anything, it's just a bridge for a day 2. If you don't build any rapport or comfort, find commonalities, or establish a REASON to meet next time, she has invested nothing and will not see you again.
It's a better idea to either stick around enough to actually make a connection, and then n-close, or do an insta-date*
*NB Insta-dates during the day RARELY lead to sex.
I started this on Sunday and so far I collected 6 numbers. I already met up with one girl and only 2 of the other 5 didn't respond to my texts.
I know where you are coming from but I totally disagree with most of what you said and I'll explain why:
Regarding "a number means nothing" you can say the same about a 30 minute conversation. If you talk to her for 30 minutes and don't get her number you have nothing. The number definitely means something.
Regarding sticking around to "make a connection" thats also false. I call it "sticking around to fuck things up". Having a long conversation is not an "investment". I talk to strangers all the time, then walk away and forget they exist. Talking longer is useless and in many cases it hurts you. Its better you walk away and leave her thinking "who was that guy?" let her imagination wonder about who you are, how interested you are in her and if you will call her again.
It leaves so much in the air. It also DHV because you basically come off like: "I have nothing to prove to you... take me or leave me". It also gives you more to talk about when you text her and when you meet her for day 2.
Look at it this way... The less time you spend getting numbers.. the more numbers you get. You are investing less time and energy. The more numbers you get.. the less you have to worry about "flaking". 30 minutes to get one number vs. 30 minutes to get 20 numbers. Do the math.
But I still understand what you are trying to say. Just hasn't been my experience.