Basically I have a question about my height. Basically i'm really quite small (5 foot 6) when the average UK male is 5 foot 10... The average UK female is 5 ft 4 but they all tend to wear 4 inch heels, so even though they're smaller than me are they are bigger than me in clubs. This ruins myt self esteem and makes me constantly feel inferior and that they won't like me due to this. Also my hair is slightly ginger whuich makes me more insecure as gingers get picked on (and I did a mlot when I was little-it used to be carrot ginger but now its almost brown.) Do you hgave any ideas how I could get women to care less about this, things I could do differently, or anything I could do to improve this or the way other people see it?

Please help mate his part of my life is destroying all others, I constantly think of it, I even cried at the doctor about it a few years back when I begged him to basically help me grow.

Thanks

Zix,

My brother is about your length and he doesn't have problems with it, why does it bother you? It's not a height problem i think, if you were tall something else would bother you.

If you are a really cool person and woman are attracted by your confidence and stuff... woman will find EXCUSES for your downsides like: Nobody is perfect, and I like him the way he is.

Walk trough a the city and you will mention a lot of short looking guys walking with hot chick. It's because they have great personality and style. NOTHING SPECIAL.

Google Tom Cruise, great example of a midget owning the world. There is really nothing to be insecure about.

Clothing to make you look bigger: Stripes vertical, V-neck in shirts, good fitting pants and a swagger that shows that you own the world. Invest in clothing that doesn't display your 'weakness'.

Riqueza.

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Not a big deal. Style was a short bald dude.

Bro, stop bitching... I'm just under 5'3" and I have still dated some gorgeous women. It's all about having inner game, granted I get shook up when I think about it at times but everyone has something about themselves they don't like. If you're seriously that shook up about it search bugarri shoes they have lifts in them anywhere from 1 to like 3 inches. One of my gf's was 5'8" though... she and I lasted for over a yr and I was the one to break it off for another woman. I promise you, get your inner game straight and nothing else matters. Women DON'T care about it... you do.

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~ Foxx

Hi guys,

here is a contribution from a Czech guy, also 5'6" and skinny:

I like myself the way I am. I am skinny but I excercise when I have time so my body has quite the "v-shape" and broad shoulders.
Fashion also helps a lot. When I walk down the street or at university in my fashionable outfit there are many girls scanning me. Remember that what you wear must be congruent with your personality. You must feel good in it.
I guess the only problem that me and Zix has is the inner game. It is caused by bad social conditioning. I was many times being laughed because of my height - at basic school, in my baseball team and even now (I study masters) my friends often like to point out my height (its like if I was making fun of them because they are fat or ugly...). ->This created many limiting beliefs in past (at least in my case).

The best way how to solve this is not to compare yourself to anyone. You and only you are a unique human being with all his strenghts and weaknesses. You have full right to enjoy your life. Do not apologize for things you want from life. My point is - if you approach a girl don't be apologetical about your height.

Also dress up and girls will overlook your smaller height

I have the same problem. I'm also short and ginger -- it's a terrible combination. I wish I knew how to overcome my insecurities, but so many women either giving me fake phone numbers or stringing me along or just wanting to be friends has made me really depressed. The only solution I've found is temporary -- weed and alcohol. That, and investing yourself in your work.

Haven't been on here for a while but had to log in to chime in on this. I know where you're coming from. This height 'issue' consumed me for a few years. I am not totally over it - i admit that. I used to come on here and find threads that said "you gotta work with what you have." That made me so mad at first. But it's true. Must. Forge. Ahead. I am 5'7. Can you believe at one point I looked into some wacky hormone therapy that cost thousands and *maybe* would make me an inch taller?! There is so much more to life.

On the social conditioning aspect - For the first 25 years of my life my height never crossed my mind. Then I dated a girl I was 8 inches taller than for 2 years and one day she made a passing comment about how it's a good thing she liked 'little guys'. That was the first nail in the coffin for the relationship, and my self esteem. Once single again, I started the online dating - all those sites. Seemed like even the 5'1 girls specified 5'11+. It's easy to see where this is going....I developed a mentality of scarcity. It made me insane about this height shit. The world is abundant and your height is your height. Work out, take all the advice about clothes in this thread (I wear lots of vertical stripes, etc), some nice jeans, and you'll be rockin.

The guy I know that has the most confidence and gets the most girls is 5'6"
You just can't let it get to your head.

You are definitely right. The limits exist only in our heads and only we prevent ourselves from reaching success. The question is how can we get rid of the bad experiences and conditioning. Personally I find affirmations quite helpful and also basic NLP stuff.

When I need some courage, I recall Mystery in TPUA1 answering one of the questions

Question: "Dear Mystery, do girls prefer big brains or big muscles?"
Mystery: "Do the hell I care?"

I've got a mate who is very short, but he's also very confident and talkative. He's actually much better with women than me despite being shorter and (in my opinion) uglier. He's also kind of fat. I basically use him to remind myself that looks are not that important, it's how you feel about yourself and how you behave that's more important.

And if being ginger bothers you, just dye your hair darker, wear hats etc. Though again, it will only bother girls if you let it bother you.

Larger than life huge personality!

Any pointers and advice on how I could do this?

Which NLP stuff would help me with this?

And haha good question of Mystery's. What is TPUA1 btw? What dpoes he have that seperates him from the rest Can I get in contact with this legend lol?

ALso btw guys I got some amzing advice from Mike Long about this topic.

He said:

"We're all the same height lying down!!"

If a girl mentions it i;'l say this

Well he is just extremely confident, he is excellent at kino and making conversation.

He also seems to make up these little kino games, but situational.

You know this is helping me too haha, i never really thought about it.

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