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This is a big problem for you my friend. Once she sees you fade, she thinks all you have been doing is faking the whole time. My advice is don't get super involved so much in the beginning. Spend 5 min with her, go do something else or talk to a buddy of yours. When someone makes you laugh or you are in the midst of a good feeling. Go back. Do this periodically threw the night when you are riding the highs of the night, so she gets you at your best. If you start to crawl into your self, just go to your friends until you get your confidence up again. Bring a topic that you speak to your friends about to her, introduce her to everyone, and when you feel like your about to wuss out, she is still with your group and you can come back later...
Your right about this being a big problem for him. The best way to stay in state is not to go back to your friends (think of it as walking backwards) but to keep moving forward and start talking to other girls. He has deep confidence issues and right now it seems like he is faking it till he's making it. That's fine but going back to your friends when you lose confidence is not fighting, it's hiding. I've been there.
What happens when you talk to a lot of girls is great. You will not put anywhere near the pressure on your conversation with one girl because your talking to a whole bunch of girls. I think a deeper problem you have is that you rely on your material too much. Once that runs out you get into comfort and you have to start being yourself and you fear that she will see behind your game and find out your really a loser. That's a terrible way of thinking.
Instead think of comfort as a great time where she gets to discover the real YOU. All those routines were just to get attraction and your foot in the door, but now, she meets the real you and boy is she in for a treat. You start thinking like this and your problem will be ELIMINATED.
CHAT
