Hi,

Part of the problem I have with this girl I'm trying to progress with is that I'm always available when she wants to hang out.

We both work during the day but our evenings are free.
I work in construction so I'm usually less inclined to do anything crazy of an evening so if I'm not seeing her, I'll just chill out in front of the telly or something.

I don't have anything to occupy my evenings. So if she asks me out for an evening, I can't say, "Oh I'm doing such and such tonight, can we do it another time" etc.

She has a personal trainer 4 days a week and sometimes she'll have her either one of her parents to stay with her for the weekend so often comes out with, "I can't do that night because".

She knows I have no other options than her so I feel she is dangling herself in-front of me.

I don't really want to lie, but is there any tricks to make it appear like I'm busy, and more importantly, she's not the only option I have?

I'm not the clingy type at all, there's been many occasion where I've backed off and she's had to approach me to get things moving again. This has worked everytime. But I do want to bone her so I have been available each time she has pursued me like a little lost puppy.

I'm thinking of saying the next time she asks me out, which she will have to do as I'm not going to ask her, is to say I can't because an old friend is back in town for a few days...

Any help would be appreciated.

As mystery say 24/7 in his tvshow, FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT!"^^

Just some up with some solid explanations why you can't meet her, could be as simple as "Nah sorry, i gonna grab a pizza and watch the basketball game with my pal"

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- "Give me ten minutes to talk away my ugly face and I will bed the Queen of France" - Voltaire

Im from Sweden so sorry for any grammar or spelling misstakes.

In anti the whole fake it to you make it deal. You just have to become whatever it is you want.

Go out an make friends

Meet new chicks

Join a Gym/ take martial arts

Womens senses are a lot sharper than guys an you are 100% correct when you say she knows she's your only option. You have to step outside that little bubble your living in an create new options an oppurtunities.


Seek an You Shall Find

Fuze

Just an alternative point of view here.

Have you thought that perhaps she knows shes your only option (like you said she knows this already) and isn't really looking for a quick fling, but something more permenant. Thats why shes not afraid to chase you so much. When girls want to settle down they all go for the nice guy- whos gonna be easy to keep and she wont have to worry about him straying.

If thats the case, as soon you bring another girl into the equation she might get second thoughts. Happened a chap recently that I wing for the odd time.