She's a HB9. I understand, as a PUA, I shouldn't. Now that I'm dating her, could I tell her she's beautiful... when she's in her sweats or something lol. I don't know how to seperate PUA material once I'm in the relationship.

There is a major transition when eveloving from PUA to relationships, obviously a few tactics still work in relationships like push pull etc. in regards to your question, yes you may call her beautiful and gorgeous, but only when she deserves it, and when you know that she likes you so much that she hangs on to every word you say, i.e tell her when you are in an emotional moment with her, and when her guards are down. But see when you tell her, also put some screening/qualifying in there, tell her why shews beautiful, i.e because the certain way you like her make-up, cause then she may wear her make up like that all the time now

Pointing out qualities you love about your girlfriend is what you're supposed to do, nothing wrong about that. Calling her beautiful is barely touching the surface. Saying stuff like that she's sexy as fuck, she turns you on etc is the kind of stuff she wants to hear. Just don't start saying it every hour of the day and buy her flowers so often her apartment becomes a greenhouse.

It depends, you need to be very honest when you give her compliments, they need to come from deep down, and some of them need to be subjective, and others very very objective..

When to be objective:
About her looks:
Dont tell her she looks good in that dress if she doesent. If she hasent asked you about your opinion on the dress, dont say anything though. When she looks good, tell her, even if she doesent ask you, but say why;
1) That colour looks good on you, that dress looks good on you.
2) Does high heels make you so attractive / sexy.

When to be subjective:
Point out some of the bad parts about her looks, but tell her how it anyways make you smile, make you crazy.. This needs to be done after some months in the relationship.. Also, will really boost her confidence
Like:
1) I love it how you ears are a little bit flappy (go out), everytime you have you hair up and i look at them i just cant stop smiling..
2) I love it when you grind your feet on my crotch (Every women hate their feet, if like me you love feet, compliment them)

When you compliment her when she is objectively beautiful, and tell her "no, its better if you take that dress on"... She will really appriciate and believe in you when you compliment her.. Cause most girls think you are "misguided" by love..

I could talk about it for hours, but just to sum it up..
I raised my girls self asteem by alot, and she is beautiful but doesent think that.. Its a good tactic to just make her love her body, and love and need your opinion on everything! from what socks to put on to what nailpolish to use.. And she will always ask you, and whatever you think is best, she will put on..


Anyway you'll get the hand of it ..

Can I apologize to my girl if I was kinda a dick to her? Also, now that she's my g/f, I'm suppose to drop the whole, "being mysterious" right?

Ofc you can if you trully believe that you did something wrong and she deserves it an apologize, if not just try and stand your ground. Dont give in.

Dont stop with the being mysterious, continue what you doing the same things in Pickuping a girl work on your Girlfriend( believe dont make the same mistake i did). Do always Push and Pull!

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Lol, some people realy shouldnt give out advice.. and some people shouldnt even post questions..

Seriously, Can i say im sorry? Can i say shes prettY? ..

Fuck man.. The more you think about everything you do, the more you will fuck up in your relationship.. Take it cool, do whatever your mind and heart tells you to do..

and dont push pull in a fking relationship.. drop pua technics.. Work on inner game, you clearly need work.. both of you..

you really want to be alpha? Alpha means being who you want to be, say what you want, do what you want, love who you want, and apoligize to who you want.. without needing to ask permission to anyone..

Aaaah! This is getting so annoying!

Little Panda is right, listen to him!

You are blinded by PUA mumbo jumbo! So many rules, so little importance. THINK! I mean, come on, how many people do you know that have an ok relationship? A lot! How many of them are PUAs? Not many. How on earth can you believe that the PUA way is the only way.

The most annoying thing about this is not you however. It is the fact that so many new PUAs buy the kit. They give up their individuality and their critical thinking. They think:
Oh, Im a PUA, now I have to do everything a PUA does.
I have to follow every rule and I have to live exactly the kind of life that PUAs live.

As if any of us have the same kind of life.

Do NOT buy the kit! Can you tell the your GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!! that she is beautiful???? Are you kidding me?? Seriously, she is your GIRLFRIEND!!!!!

First of all, I take it you studied the Mystery method. That method is supposed to be used from first eye contact until first sexual relation. After that there ARE NO PUA RULES!!!!
Have you completely forgot how to be human man? A part of having a relationship is about making each other feel good. Whouldnt you feel good if your GF told you that you look good?

You already caught her! Now you are gonna have to try to keep her! That is not any simple pickup, that is called having a relationship. The rules change.

You need to feel her man, you need to sense what she needs.

The only reason people are not supposed to tell girls that they are beautiful is that otherwise they tend to do that the first thing they do and come off as complete losers. They dont even know the girl and judge her by her looks, that transmits, Im gonna fuck you because of your looks.
But, you have a relationship, she knows that you like her, she knows you so why in the world would you not tell her??? That doesnt make you a loser, that does tell her that you appreciate her looks, and you are supposed to. But not only! You gotta do other stuff as well.

As for apologizing! Yes! YES YES YES!!! You have to be able to apologize if you have been a bad boy!
Again, in initial game you dont really apologize because you are not supposed to do anything you have to apologize for. She judges your strength and whatnot. But in a relationship... Maaaan!!!! You need to be able to apologize.

What kind of girl do you think will ever wanna be with a guy who is so weak that he cannot even admit that he is wrong. That dont even have the guts to accept that he has done something bad. That isnt man enough to apologize!

NO GIRL will ever waste her time on such a loser. She will be gone faster than you can say neg.


Again, this is not all directed at you, this is a general little personal crusade.

But pleeeease remember that:

1. A relationship is NOT a pickup
2. A relationship is NOT only about initial attraction
3. A relationship is NOT about fighting for power
4. A relationship is NOT a game
5. A relationship IS a mutual alliance between two (or more) people who choose to walk the path of life side by side for as long as they both get mutual benefits from it. When the annoyance becomes bigger than the benefits, they walk with someone else.

Hope this clears stuff up for you...

And Dont take offence, I am telling you this because you did what most people here cant, you got a relationship out of it. Hold on to that and if your relationship demands that you go against the stereotypical PUA behavior, man, that choice is easy to make. Fuck the PUA stereotype!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

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