Hi.

Yesterday at the library at my university I was studying, and then a really hot girl sat next to me and worked with her lap top. She is a 8-9, and then a used a opener like "do you know what time it is ?" (I knew what time it was, but I wanted to talk to her). She says the time, and then I ask her what she studies, what year she is in. I made her laugh a few times, and after having talked for 5 minutes we both go back to study. After 10-15 minutes she leaves, and I tell her that I am new on this island (I live in Hawaii, Oahu), and I would like to get to know someone who has been here for a while. So I ask her if she wants to exchange number. So I give her my phone, and she types in her number. I told her I will call her.

After having talked to her my heart was beating really fast because she was so hot. That usually never happens to me. Maybe because I was sitting so close to her while we talked.

Here is my question: What is the next step ? Should I call her or text her ? Should I ask her out on a date or what ? She is really hot, but she seems down to earth.
Everytime I become interested in a girl she has a bf, so chances are that she might have a bf.

I do not know what to do. I need a lot advice.

Thanks in advance.

There is no one who can help with some advice ?

I try to text a few hours after the pickup, the key is stay fresh in her mind, the longer you wait the less important you are (from a memory stand point) understand that the hotter the girl the more attention she gets, in a few hours she's probably been hit on by someone else, in the 3 days people used to say to wait before calling a girl, she's been hit on by average 22-30 time's, think about that one for a minute, how significant are you to this girl after she's interacted with 30 more interested guys, ya dig?

when you call/text her, just chat her up a little bit, be friendly, I wouldn't come out and ask her if she has a boyfriend but maybe work the conversation in a fashion that it might come up naturally.

last I would totally try to make plans with her, if she has a boy friend what ever, the way I see it, hot girls usually have hot friends, so make some friends and whatever happens happens.

Good luck brother.

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Ok. Thanks. So when I text or call, what should I say ? I know this sounds stupid, but I hounestly do not know. Should I ask her if she wants to do something soon ? Maybe hang out ?

really doesn't matter, I like to call, at the same time you could always get voice mail and no return call, a lot of guys like texting, it's short sweet and they can reply when ever. So, yer call. doesn't really matter what you talk about, don't get yourself all worked up over it (chicks are like bee's they can smell fear lol) remember she's just another girl, if you can work something funny that you've already talked about, try and use it as an opener. at this point, build a little report and feel it out a bit.


try not to sound like yer hitting on her a little CnF is fun and effective, if you feel like she's responding well and comfortable enough, go ahead and make plans.

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Text, don't call. Calling leaves the possibility of getting a voicemail (especially since I know few women who will pick up when strange numbers appear) and there's too much hazard of leaving a meandering voicemail where your voice sounds less and less confident by the second.

Keep the text short and to the point, and do it in the middle of the day, after lunch.

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Well put, some say calling/texting at close to the same time as the pickup will increase the likely hood of getting the target in a similar state of mind. one of my most attractive treats is my vocal tone and speech pattens this is one reason I always try to call, as appose to texting, however as stated above is an extremely valid argument for texting.

Art Sandusky, I am curious as to what you mean by "short and to the point"? I normally wouldn't recommend trying to setup a date after only 10-15 minutes time with a girl, at this point trying to setting up a date w/o report built increases the likely hood of a girl flaking, could come across creepy and worst yet could close the door on the possibilities of entering entering a new social circle if the girl does have a boyfriend.

I would still recommend feeling out the situation before setting anything up especially sense we don't know if the girl has a boyfriend or not and if she does entering a new social group by introduction of an HB9 adds massive pre-selection points when dealing with possible future targets.

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Hi.

Thanks for the advice. I called her a two days after I got her number, and it went to voicemail. She called me back right after. I told her that we met in the library, etc., and asked her if wanted to do something sometime. She said that this weekend (I called her friday) she could not meet because she had to study for midterms. I did not say that we should meet this weekend, and I said that it was ok because I could not meet this weekend, either. She laughed a lot on the phone, and I did not say anything really funny. She seems like a girl that likes to laugh even though what you are saying is not really funny, which is great.
I said we could do something thursday night, but she has midterms friday, too, so I said that I would call her monday, and she said ok.
I am thinking maybe asking her out friday night. If she says yes, where should I take her ? Would it be a good idea to ask her out on a date ?
If she says no because she does not have time, or suggests another time to meet, e.g. during the day, what should I say ?
I think I should meet her next week because if the next time I see her is 2 weeks after the first meeting, she might have lost interest.

Please comment. I could really use some advice

You already said you'd call on Monday. Wait until then, any sooner and you're coming across as needy/desperate. For all she knows, you've got other girls on the hook, which makes you seem more valuable to her. Don't let her know that it isn't true.

Hey Kopo nice work. Whether it's text game or phone game have a purpose behind it. With either one you should always set up a Day 2 and don't drag out a conversation if it is not fun. Or else why waste your time? If you text her you have to come off as interesting and fun. Read up on text game for sure or send me a private message, I'm willing to share some field-tested notes.

If you want to take her out on a date that's way chill if you like dates. Dates do put on more pressure than just getting together to play games with friends or going to grab lunch or dinner just on a rapport basis. With that said, just know that your a man. Do not "ask her on a date" for approval seeking desires, but rather because it would be fun for her to check out what "your world is". Make her want to be a part of your world by being chill and bringing the fun.

Its always worked for me to shoot a text a little after getting the number.

I will say

Hey (nickname):P its (your name) im just shootin you a text now so you have my number. We should totally grab lunch sometime!

It has worked awesome for me and it sets up a day 2 pretty quick. No time wasted. They also appreciate that you texted them so they have your number. You stay in their mind.

Hope it helps!

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Hi.

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

Andereffect, I sent you a pm. Spye, you should I send the type of text you mentioned even though I have already called her after I got her number and she might have saved my number ?

I am thinking maybe asking her out friday night, but I do not know if that would be too much for her. A date usually indicates that you are romantically interested. Should I let her know that I am romantically interested by asking her out ?
If she says yes, where should I take her ?

If she says no because she does not have time, or suggests another time to meet, e.g. during the day, what should I say ?

These are the two scenarios that I really need advice for. This girl is hot, and I do not want to ruin my chances with her.

As far as I am concered do not ask for a date and shoot for a day time meet up. Mention something you are gonna do anyway (even if you really aern't) and suggest she meet you there cause you would like to catch up with her. Coffee works good or the library could work as long as its not to far in the future, just say something like "I get coffee every Friday at----, it would be cool to see you again" Or if you just moved to the school say " I'am usally so tired I get a mocha on Friday with my lunch, where is a good place to go around here?" She might say " I go to ---- we should meet up" That way if she can't it's no big deal. If she suggest an other time, just say "that sounds good, I don't think I have anything else going on." But say it like you had to think about it.

Thanks for the advice, timer.
Is that what you usually do ? Have you had success with it ? After I meet her for coffee or what ever, should I ask her out or what ?

Ok, no don't send that text i mentioned. I only do that after number closing the girl. Not right after, but like an hour or two.

Women use texting more than men, why not text? Especially in college (im in college ). But calling is a great tool. I usually don't call a girl to ask to hang out, i will text. Never text Hey what are you doing tonight. It implies that you have nothing fun going on and your looking for someone to entertain you. My wing gave me this "Hey (nickname) what kinda trouble are you causing tonight?" then shell say bah blah, you say something like im going to (place) come along it will be awesome!

Also I have never had success with dates. Something about the word date just kinda scares em away it seems, idk maybe its just my calibration. Just hang out with her and ESCALATE physically.

I really like what Timer says. Thats a good way to approach it. It would be a lot easier to meet up again on campus, than trying to get her out on a date.

You dont have to ask her out on a date after you grab coffee with her. Just push/ pull a bit and be really sociable and build good rapport. Touch her a a bit so it starts the physical contact. You will be out of the "friend zone" and on her radar. I wouldnt ask her out (as I find it shows alot of interest and a bit afc), just invite to really fun things, escalate and close the deal.

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