| Hello all,
I have done some PUA reading, and I find it a very helpful ways to get new good ideas. I have never had much trouble with meeting and getting with women, but I could be doing a lot better. So here is my situation/problem that I could use some advice on.
I love music and recently started taking private piano lessons (I play other instruments as well). I was really surprised how attractive my piano teacher was when I met her, she is also my same age, another plus.
I have never had many problems with picking up a chick who I don't know that well or just don't care about. No investment or disappointment there. However I find myself being soo attracted to this girl, a kind of attraction that I have rarely felt. Knowing that real interpersonal connection and compatibility exists makes me nervous and over-analytical in thinking and interacting with her.
One problem is I am not at all used to this way of getting a girl. She is teaching me, so there is a natural shift of situational control that leans her way. I am not sure how she feels about me, but after contacting her online simply looking for lessons and setting up a payment plan she immediately offered to have me teach her guitar in exchange for piano lessons, this way no money changes hands. She did not propose this plan until after she actually met me for my first lesson. This makes me think there is some attraction going on. After a few weeks she decided against learning guitar but is still extremely reluctant to ask me for money for lessons (money I know she could use)
While this may seem like a better post for some sort of love forum or something, I want to BE with her, not simply confess all my feelings just to have it be an awkward situation. She is moving out of town in a month and I feel that I must do something. I can't wonder "what if". Any help is appreciated, these types of situations where something deeper then sex exists are a bit new to me, especially in such as odd social environment for picking up (as far as I know she has no idea how I feel for her, and we have not engaged in any sexual activities).
So if you have any ideas of how to transform a private piano lesson into something I am open to them all. Having all my focus on playing a pice on the piano makes it unable for me to both play music and attempt to observe the slight changes in her behavior to give me and idea of how she feels.
GRRR, please help me. Should I just ask her out in a formal fashion? I'll be honest, that's newer territory for me. A bar.. sure, a party... sure. but a piano lesson? Also keep in mind I have no idea who exactly she is. What I do know is that shes free, open, loving, artsy, and extremely sweet. My perfect match.
Should I act like a gentlemen? lately I have been feeling all this energy building up in her presence and I just want to fucking jump her (clearly not the best approach... I think)
Sorry for the long semi-intoxicated post, I look forward to your input.
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