| So I met this girl about a month ago in my class. I asked her to join me and some other kids for homework, she didn't really take to anyone else in class at the time(she has told me how shy she is, and how much she hates public speaking, ect...). The only person in the class she really knew was this one kid from another class who she has told me several times "is a creep."
A little about her personality: she is a little socially awkward. She doesn't wear any makeup, just naturally pretty. Definitely a guy in that respect, doesn't really worry about her looks, though not a slob at all.
I asked her out to lunch, she said yes and we set a date for the next week. We went a few days ago. Things went fine, she didn't really dress up or anything, wasn't waiting by her phone for me to call her I don't think, pretty much seemed very casual about it. We saw one of her girl friends on the way to dinner, she didn't even introduce me, and apologized about it afterward saying "sorry that was really rude of me."
Lunch went well, we talked the whole time, no awkward silences, and had some pretty deep conversation(although she is the type of person who talks a lot). I payed for dinner, although she did try to take the check from me and pay for both of us herself when I took the check(she literally stole it from me, and I stole it back).
Reasons I think I may have a shot:
She never blows me off, Always responds to my texts, She doesn't "hit" me when we're talking, but seems to bump into me a lot(with like hand movements and stuff). For the first few weeks we hung out, we always seemed to be standing kind of close to each other, by my doing and by hers(with out arms or hands touching, neither of us pulled away)
Reasons I think she doesn't like me:
She never tries to hang out with me unless I ask, in which case she will if she has time, but she works a job, goes to school, and does research with some professor, so is rarely available. Rarely texts me unless I text her(though she used to a little more). She talks to that dude who she calls a creep way more than me(and whenever he walks in to class she makes a point to notice him, though never looks at me when I enter), and rarely initiates speech with me(though she will if I don't say anything to her).
In all, I don't feel like she treats me as anything special compared to the rest of the people she knows while we are in a group with other people(class study sessions), but at the same time, she doesn't push me away while I feel I am pretty actively pursuing. She definitely finds me smart and funny. I text her maybe once every 2-3 days, and she always seems to respond positively sometimes she calls me a loser or nerd(I am pretty sure this is playful, and I feel like I wouldn't say that to someone I don't like. We're both in a science major, so she has many opportunities while I am explaining things).
So I have two ways to go from here. Either I can continue to pursue, if she is not interested in me, she will push me away. Or I can show disinterest and see if she comes to me. The second choice is obviously more risky because if she is still on the fence about me, I will get friend zoned.
So what would you guys do in this situation. I have definitely been a little too nice to this chick, so I am afraid I may have messed things up already.
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