*** I am writing this for a friend, the girl is 16 and he is 17, take that in mind ***

At first she was only the 'pretty neighbor' ive seen from my window, I couldn't catch her outside of her house so I decided I will find her name and add her to facebook and trying taking it from there, and I managed to do so

We started talking on Facebook, then we went to MSN
I did my best to DHV her as much as possible through the net ( been trying to meet with her on several occasions - but shes been backing from it a few times ) , and then we did meet ... little to little I fell in love with her ( I didnt have enough time to make a move such as K-C ) , and then she got a boyfriend, >>> Her first one ever

I decided I wont give up, I believed they wouldn't last long so I waited for them to break up, sadly I did the mistake of continuing to talk to her and keeping in contact with her ( with sent me straight into the friends zone ) and after a while I found out how deep in the friends zone, 'she called me brother ' .

She broke up with him eventually ( he hurt her pretty badly ), Then I found out from her friend that she is deeply in love with me but she doesnt wanna get into a relationship again because of what her EX did to her.

She knew I was in love with her because I couldn't keep it inside while she had a BF and I told her that, she wanted we have a chat and in that chat she said she want us to cut connection because she doesnt wanna have a serious relationship that will wreck us friendship , and because of what happened to her, she also admitted to love me, but that doesnt change her mind.

We are both in love with each other, but we cant be together because of her stubbornness, how do i break this barrier?

Sorry but you don't.... You are firmly in "friend zone" and the whole "i don't wanna get hurt again"routine is just her letting you down easily but also to give you false hope... I wish I was wrong but unfortunately this scenario haas been repeated to o many times to think otherwise...

NEXT--

The fact that she loves me is out of the question, numerous of her friends told me so ( boys and girls ), even people she barley knew said that once my name came up she got all lighten up

so keep that in mind for the next answers, please

I don't doubt she "loves" you, but.....

Im interested to hear someone elses take on your situation... Good luck with it... I'll wait for an update

My gf which has been my friend for quite some time has told me she wanted to end it because she didn't want to hurt me; I straight up told her that is a bullshit reason and that it is a possible outcome... In other words I know it may happen, but if you don't take the risk you might miss out.

Anyhow you should talk to her and say that yes it may happen because we are all human, but it can also turn out good. Good luck

listen, its like this

SHE LOVES YOU, LIKE A BROTHER, HONEST TO GOD NO QUESTION, but your mistaking it and shes mistaking it, and everyone else is mistaking it as TRUE LOVE, it doesn't work that way she's just into you like family, trust me a real relationship would be weird for you and her, it'd feel weird and awkward.

Fender43

Everyone that has a diffrent opinion, please suggest me what to do in your opinion - dont only write what you think

Most times this kind of situations either work or they don't.So...

Make her jealous.
Sometimes we need to get jealous to realise that we want someone.
When a male friend stops treating us like princesses and starts talking about how great another woman is and how much he wants her and asks US advice on how to be with that other girl is a good way to make us jealous.

Personally I believe you're firmly planted in the friend zone, but if you wanna try everything you can cause "she's the one"... Then follow the "Girls"advice...

Sample conversation:

Ok, I'm so glad we decided to just be friends and not ruin our friendship....... So since we aren't gonna be together I was thinking you could help give me some pointers on how to get Jennifer?... She haas been looking soooo good lately ever since she got that new haircut.....blah blah blah

If you actually try this technique let us know otherwise my money is on "friend zone"permanently