I am in a stable relationship, it's been a long time now. We're genuine and loving towards each other (with the occasional healthy fights included). Even though I am very much satisfied with her and what she has to offer, I find that I enjoy flirting with other women, getting their numbers, being cocky-funny around them and making them fall for me. I just find it to be enjoyable like let's say, a sport. I get told "You must be having a girlfriend" a lot, but I generally give no definitive answers because once it's clear to the other woman that you're a committed guy, it just kills the fun.

But the problem comes when I have their number and I have built rapport with them, but I won't escalate (because I'm in a relationship and I'm a faithful person, so I know where to draw the lines). In a social circle if let's say, I've build contact, rapport and had a good impression on 8 out of 10 chicks, I fear once they all start to realize that I'm not really seriously into any one of them, they'll start to bitch behind my back, call me a playboy, which might just hurt my social status.

The only reason I communicate with women in the PUA manner is because I find PUA-style socializing with nice chicks to be fun. I don't intent to cheat on my girlfriend or hurt another girl.

What is your suggestion?

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Haha... I'm the exact same way... Ive been happily married for 5 years now and me and my wife fell in love with that show "Pickup Artist "

We both started reading about it and studying it together (we both love psychology and human nature)

Anyway I wear a wedding ring and say right up front "Don't worry I'm married so I'm not some creep trying to hit on you, but....." That's how I start 90% of my initial interactions... Out totally disarms them right away... I then kino, play the game and escalate just like a PUA... Then if we happen to hit it off and exchange numbers she knows its just a friend thing... Its almost like I disqualify them and put them in the friend zone... Next thing you know they are whispering in my ear telling me they wanna hook up with me (75% of them at least ) Then when I remind them that I'm happily married to a sexy woman that I'm faithful to then they want me even more...

My point is DON'T HIDE THE FACT YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP it doesn't matter to most of them anyway... Plus it gives you massive ego boost when you tel l a HB9 NO !! They don't hear that to often....Arghahaa

i dont know what you mean by flirting.. anyway, i never go seek girls, if they come to me, or some friends come to me in the city.. i do like to flirt a little.. but small things, like light kino ect, just because i cant stop touching the girls legs

I just got into a relationship, but as the above poster said I flirt if they come to me. I don't intentionally start hitting on women unless of course I'm winging my bros that night. Even then I never overdo it

So guys how do you think people like us who non-seriously and sportingly flirt with other women can stop our image from becoming that of a playboy?

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Think "Ari Gold " on entourage... As long as you are faithful then it makes for an intriguing balance!

Now if you cheat and flirt then your just an asshold and no one likes on of those....fyi