today i saw this 3 girls and when i wanted to go and show my game i didnt even think about fail but i just felt public embarrassment... and i just couldnt talk to them... how can i overcome the public embarrassment feeling...?

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Hey i know how you feel man just remember "Attraction isn't a choice!" (DD) If u can attract them, and have them all smiling at you people will envy you and wheres the embarrassment in that? Just remember ATTRACTION. Course u get it badly sometimes, thats when you do what my friend told me. Go off to some secluded place and grab a hold of your you know what and smile with pride, why? cause u had the balls to approach them!

People love to be entertained, so if you learn to entertain people, then they will enjoy it, and you will enjoy having people be entertained by you, then you love entertaining.

Written as a formula (why? because I feel like it, that's why!):

People <3 entertainment => you entertain people => people <3 you => you love entertaining => no more anxiety

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

So, I'm just figuring all this stuff out by myself. I haven't seen the pick up artist yet, though I need to to figure out which lines NOT to use (because the girls (roughly around 50%) have seen the show). I stick to the basic format, but I try to figure out new questions for openers. Anyway, I was cruising with my married friends (I have alot of these now, so sarging by myself has become a matter of course) to see a downtown arts show w/live music and a bunch of stands. It was horrible for sets that day, either the girls were too young or sorrounded by their boyfriends. I still tried eliminating my fear of approach by asking a mother with a cute (though underage) daughter which hemp necklace in the stand would be the best for me. Doing things like that, and being honest with a bunch of women about the fact that you are trying to be more attractive to girls helps alot. They will give you genuine advice. Doing this to girls you're interested in though, just makes you look like a wussy, so be careful. While at a stand, I purchased two finger puppets, a monkey and a yellow bird. I decided that these would be excellent approach props (especially the monkey, because of the sexual innuendo that could be done with a few funny voices). I had plenty of material to use with these puppets, and I was getting psyched to find the right set to use it on. As we were leaving, there was a six set of pure girls (age range 23-35, I'm 24). I got the fear of public embarrassment, but I went for it anyway. I asked them "Hey, I need your opinion on something. Which finger puppet do you like best?" I don't think it came off quite smooth, but now I had six girls looking at me, and two of them had shit tests waiting on their faces, but they surprisingly didn't let them go. Convo went on for about twenty seconds, and I just freaked and couldn't play with the puppets like I wanted to because I was too afraid of being judged. I had to excuse myself and thanked the ladies for their opinion. I felt like crap, but I know that I still had the balls to approach them and that I am getting better everyday by myself. My theory is this: The more approaches you make, the more confidence you build. It took me about 10-15 approaches to pull off my first neg. I can see it is only a matter of time. If everyone, all the beginners just worked field and app. app. app., all lady problems will be handled in due course.

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What we all learn is to keep trying.