So i was seeing this girl right as summer started, it was going fantastic and the only thing holding us back from being official was me going back to my country for the summer.

To make a long story short it didnt last the summer...

Now im back at university and she is also back, but she is seeing someone 3 1/2 hrs away, hes not her bf though. In my head i feel like if i dont screw up i will win in the end.

What my game plan has been so far: -
- Hang out with her at least once a week.
- Do occasional things that are flirtatious.
- Dont talk too much to avoid friend zone.
- Make plans with her on weekends so she hopefully wont drive down there(Although she would because in her head he has priority).

When we hang out, it flows really naturally, we wrestle, spar, when shes sitting down talking to me im always caressing her legs. Sometimes i play with her hair or smell her neck but then she says something like,"You cant do that" or if i call her sexy, she says,"dont say that, but thanks." She stops me normally like 20 seconds after i play with her hair. She doesnt stop me caressing her legs.

She constantly talks about howmuch she likes my boldness and aggressive attitude and finds it really refreshing that i always say whats on my mind, and that shes never met anyone like me.

when she first mentioned him i laughed and said f*** that guy hes screwed, too far away, maybe not the best thing to say but lol whatevs.

One night after movie and arcade, we had a 'talk'...

i talked about how i wanted her back and she talked about how she was seeing someone... this isnt the order but here are things you should know

me - f*** it i still have feelings for you, and i know you still have feelings for me
her - i cant sit here and tell you i have feelings for you when im seeing someone
else, it would be wrong of me...
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me - in not giving up on you
her - you should its not worth it
me - you actually think this is gunna work out? hes so far away
her - yes i think its gunna work out
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me - we have so much fun together, dont deny it
her - i do have alot of fun with you, but i dont see how we can hang out if we are
on different pages and have different goals
me - Just because i have feelings on you that doesnt mean i have to act on them,
(bullshit , but i felt i would have lost her if i didnt, say that)


we have hung out since then and its fun and we even grappled.

She doesnt respond well to negative game, and really likes old school shit like, chivalry i guess? guys that try to neg her and stuff she just says thats ok im fine with that and walks away from them.


Yes btw, i have been seeing like 3 girls, and picking up and clubs, so no oneitis speech please, im trying here, but i want her alot still, and it would be wrong not to try for something i wanted.

Any comments? advise? am i on the right track? ive never tried to split up 2 ppl before out of morals but she was mine before that f***er capitalized on her vulnerability i caused in the summer.

I was in a similar situation in which my GF and I had split, but I had always maintained an extremely high level of attraction with her. It seems from your post you have managed to keep sexual tension within your relationship.

You need to be like Sun-Tzu and understand you are at war with her conscious. She has this guy who has priority, and you need to make her not give up that priority, but begin to question it. Your approach needs to be two pronged

1.) Push and Pull sexual tension
don't be so approval seeking when you hang out with her by complimenting her constantly. Your approach should have this mentality "I know I'm so sexy that it is taking everything in your arsenal to resist giving into my advances" With that said next time you hang out tease her endlessly. Sexually I mean, don't use words. No compliments. Just casual strokes on her inner thigh, don't draw attention to it, just do it reaaal sly like. give her looks right in the eye where you seem to be contemplating something about her then smile and look her up and down. casually brush her inner forearm with your finger tips and when you feel its right kiss her just below the ear on her neck (during a hug or something) Now do these things in a push pull method. One minute you're not interested in her, then you suddenly notice her smile and stroke her leg, then you go back to blah blah blah

2.) Jealousy
After building up that sexual tension she will want to fuck you, yeah? But you want more than that. If you effectively push-pulled and played on her attraction with confidence she will begin to want to fuck you, but she can't have you can she? who was that girl who left her number on your facebook wall, who was that girl you were having lunch with at you old "favorite spot" Why did you cancel your plans with her friday night. Use sly methods to make her ask these questions. for example gather information about her day, what she plans to do. You know where she has class what time a day? Maybe stroll by with another girl on your arms.


Now that you have created sexual tension and left it. And now she is wondering why and asking all these questions she begins to wonder if she is good enough for you......then you fuck her, hard, fuck the dog shit out of her. and she'll be hooked.

Hey Dizzler, thanks for giving me a sense of direction with this. I have never hung out with her with other people around, only twice, its normally 1on1. But between my first post and your reply i called her and told her i wanted to see her friday. She asked what are we doing and i told her i had no idea, could be party, could be club, could be mass murder(lol), but whatever it was it would be an adventure, and that i wanted her there(in those exact words). I don't think she has ever cancelled plans on me before, that is quite refreshing.

I kind of but not quite understand the give up vs. question the priority. Can you elaborate on that?

She knows i do pick up and has seen me successfully seduce hot girls. I will try to get more girls to hang out on friday and bring my wingman so that i can work my magic. I do not think that i will do anything with any other girl infront of her though, she isnt really the jealous type and i feel like if i do she will think i am over her and/or be glad she has that other guy to fall back on, but i will flirt and txt other girls though.

As far as fucking her goes, thats definately not going to happen with anyone who is not her bf, she has her morals and she sticks to them like no tomorrow, its not a matter of my game being not strong enough believe me.

I have never push pulled her in the past. The way i gamed her in the beginning was experimental, i wanted to see what would happen if i was just completely honest, always complimented and very sexual, and that really worked, i feel like if i just do that again it will work out, comments on that? Maybe she didnt know me that well at that time and thought she could lose me and i have given her too much confidence that that i want her. Is it possible that push-pulling might get her frustrated with the flakiness? she is looking for a relationship and being inconsistent may be as a turn off, and she might think of me as a cheater.

Here's my two cents... Take it for what its worth... I think she knows she can have you whenever she wants so she s just keeping you on the back burner in case this other guy doesn't work out... If I were you, take her out to the club with your friends... Flirt and have a good time with heer then go completely cold on her and start gaming other girls in front of her... Let her see you kissing another girl on the neck or something else erotic but not trashy (ie. don't bump and grind a chick in front of heer or stick your tongue down someone elses throat) Then completely disappear without saying goodbye and have your friends tell her "he had to leave but he wanted me to make sure you got home safely"

She will tell you she's pissed off that you left her and doesn't want to talk to you anymore but the fact is the jealousy will drive her crazy. she will be cold at first but as long as you stay calm cool and collected she will stay coming up with reasons to see you... Next thing you know she will be telling you how much of a jack ass you were fir leaving her at the club, then before you know it you wel be fucking her like a wild animal !!

Whether you use this tactic our not NEVER underestimate a girls competitive spirit... If she thinks she can have you whenever she decides then you've gotta do something to change that... period...

Good luck... If my method is a like extreme then come up with am alternate way to show heer that the only choice is "take it or leave it" there is no in between...