Hi guys,

I am having a serious problem for almost all my life,

It happend with my first girlfriend wich i lost because of this,

and its happening again with my second girlfriend.

the story:

2 weeks ago i got texted by i girl i've met going out.
she wanted to meet me while going out the week afther

all went well the first couple of days but after a while my problem start to kick in.

i never now what to say to the girls, i can't even start or hold a nice deep conversation.

it's always talk about the same boring stuff like things i've done that day.

the problem with this is that we don't get to know each other well enough to get further in the relationship.

the first week went really well we had a nice time together, but this weekend things messed up.

Last saturday we went to a party from a friend of hers and i got a bit drunk and became very tired, so i didn't even get to know all of her best mates ( i didn't even talk to them).

Partly also because of my problem i think.

She told me i've also been harsh to her telling she didn't had to yell in my ear so hard (i can't remember it me saying that and also don't believe i did say it the way she says).

the monday after she told me she was really upset about what happend on the party, and the fact of me being drunk ( i wasn't really drunk, i can remember everything from that night except me telling her to shut up)

she told me things were going to fast for her and she stopped the relationship for now and first wants to get to know each other a bit more before getting on.

this is where my problem gets to me:

I CANT GET A CONNECTION WITH THE GIRLS I'M WITH

she want to meet with me soon to go and do something nice with me, so i'm still in the game with her.

my questions now are:


1. What are good places for me to meet with her where we can speak and get to know each other better

2. how can i conversate with her so i really get to know / connect with her?
what are good ways to start and hold the conversation.

3. i want to laugh with her so she can see that i am the funny guy she met while going out, how can i be funny being alone with her?

(because of what happened last saturday i don't think its smart to neg her of being cocky on her)

so what to do now??



please help me guys, i dont want to mess things up this time


i hope you guys want to help me,

greetings,

the_catch

You may be trying to hard. Just relax and just have a good time. Woman can sense when a man is trying to hard to please them and prove their self worthy. This turns woman off.

Just place this in your mind "she lucky as fuck just to be with you" and have a good time. Everything else will fall in place.

Sounds like she was shit testing you some with being drunk and the yelling in the ear BS.