She came to my city to study 2 weeks ago. Her boyfriend lives 300 km away. They see each other once per 1-2 week.

She invited me 2 days ago, and ask If I can stay for a night cause she's scared to sleep alone, so I did when I was trying to kiss her, she told that we are in relationships and we shouldn't do it (I didn't want to be needy so I accepted) but later she laid down on my chest and hug me and in this position we were sleepin' all night.

I don't know if I should stop to dateing with her or not. She still is tellin me a stories about her boyfriend.

First approach


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgVbDUMxP8o



second approach

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4faSs0mg_pI

hehe, First one is more in my way but thanks anything else?

Opener,
I usually try to stay away from girls who are taken. She could simply be using you because her bf is not there. Also, I have morals since I would not want a PUA to take my girl, so I stay away from what is taken. I mean, think about it, there are so many single girls out there that why dont you get one of those.
You do have to be careful because girls make it up that they have a man when they actually dont. But this girl is literally telling you stories about her man. Does she say that she loves him. What is the distance gap? Like is she away for a while like in college or something. She probably wants a man to cuddle with so that it reminds her of her man. You gotta be careful about this bcuz you dont want to be that guy who is placed second, that f*cks with your inner game and shit....

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The thing is She will be in my city for 5 years, and her bf just start studies in other city which is 300 km away. I don't believe in love when people are miles away from each other

She loves him, but I think it's just matter of time, She wants to meet and have fun with me. Im sure she needs somebody to be close to get physical.
I understand You don't do such a thing and I respect it but I believe that "in war and love there are no rule" and The most beautiful women just jump from one guy to another.

I wanna know if I should chill with her and wait for right time (like couple of weeks) or hold "the finger on the trigger"

Anyway thanks for your opinion, take care

Looks like she is either attracted to you man and want's you but doesn't want to be labeled a cheater but can't seem to drop him OR like Lorenzo said she's just playing with you in which case you better find out because you don't want to be the guy that keeps her company while her man is away.

I too do not like people taking other guy's gfs but if their relationship is on the rocks, she might just be holding on to him until she finds something better. In which case you my man will be the better man.

If indeed she want's to be with you, I think you just need to DHV and show her how much better off she would be with you and what she is missing out on. When you DHV also disqualify yourself.

I'm not sure if anyone has tried using the bf as a disqualifier but here's something that I just thought of. You can tell her how much fun you both would have if you were officially together. Put future adventures of both of you going out places and having fun together. Then say but that will never happen because we are not together. If you want, try it out and let us know what happens.

Critiques on this disqualifier are welcomed. Just trying to help out!

Peace out

You sir need to re-think your philosophy before you end up going after a soldiers women. Who are you to claim that love doesn't exist across 300 km or an ocean. I got brothers across the ocean and I still love them. My mother has travelled while dad worked and they love each other. You have no Idea what you are talking about and by the sounds of it are trying to rationalize your unacceptable behaviour. I would love to hear about some asshole moving in on my girl while he knew about me, and discarded it to, you can't be in love cause he's not in the same city. You really should think about what you are talking about.

Secondly yes, sure, she wants to meet and have fun with you. So what, chalk that up on the shes lonely list and your a "good" guy. Good in brackets for a GOOD reason.

Thirdly, its "all is fair in love and war" now take what i told you before, I FIGHT war, I live miles away. You are not batteling for some girl cause you love her, your after her body parts. Hopefully what I tell you, you will take to heart and not screw up two peoples lives just because they are in a point in time where they can't live in the same city.

Proposing that the most beautiful women move from one dude to the next, clearly you know nothing then. ALL women do this. However who are you to decide that shes one of the many you describe. Who are you to figure that these two are nothing just because you have one perticular belief.

Don't be a typical boy, have some class. Become a man.

All right Mr "world is fair". If you believe in monogamy that's your problem. She's 19 so I don't believe she is going to spend all her youth with this guy.

Um, where in any of his posts did he say the guy was in the military? Sounds like she's in Opener's town for college and the boyfriend still lives somewhere else. I believe he meant to use the "all's fair in love and war" expression.

Even though I'm in the Army now, I was Jodi in the past. It was the summer 2006 and she was all over me while he was in Iraq. It was a one-time deal because I honestly couldn't get it up thinking about what I was doing. Considering what a dirtbag the guy ended up being I should have ripped that shit up with extreme prejudice but whatever.

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