Hi, i'm philip, and new to the forum. For almost all my life i was too shy to ever approach a girl, to even talk to one as i would a friend. In middle school and high school i wasted my time away doing stuff all the other loser nerds do, such as watch porn and play video games.My circle of friends consisted of dudes and dudes with their girlfriends. I had pretty much developed a sort of self-denial/elitist complex towards women during my adolescence, and it has seriously hurt me in the long run.

Well I'm sick of it. I am sick of missing out on the potentially wonderful experiences of sex and love, while all others around me are getting some without a problem. I want to know the game. I'm currently a sophomore at a university, and i live in a co-ed dorm. I will say, I have improved greatly throughout the years in terms of being chill and not giving a fuck. (thanks in part to weed and booze) my shyness has died down, I can now begin conversations with attractive women, and flirt with them without it coming across as awkward. I will later post a few recent encounters that started off GREAT, but ended up going to shit, for reasons unclear.

The problem is, I have absolutely no common sense when it comes to taking cues, like knowing what the other girl is thinking. Also, in the back of my mind, I try to force confidence upon myself, as I am always told that confidence is key, but sometimes it's hard to have confidence being so inexperienced, because being confident implies knowing what you're doing, that you're the fucking man and you're untouchable, which I know i am not at this stage.

Pretty much every friend I've told has been shocked to hear that I'm a virgin, as the majority of my peers think that i'm a really cool person to be around with. I also know for a fact that I am a pretty good looking guy. I guess I'll post a picture laterjust for relevance, but the point is, I need help!

1. Learn body language. google -> the body language project pdf.

2. http://www.doctorlovecoach.com/News-art ... d-252.html

http://www.worldoffemale.com/when-your- ... ly-saying/

3. Understand the value system...you need to be (or appear) higher or equal to her social value, you may have to lower your standards a bit ( I know I know the pua is filled with guys trying to all get solid 10's but really how often and realistic is that, and do you want to deal a ultra high value female and the drama they bring?)

You need to set some realistic goals. Have a goal for each week and meet it. For example:

Week 1

Smile and say "Hi" to everyone who intimidates you.

Week 2

Start a conversation with a random person (guy or girl)

Week 3

Approach 10 girls with no intention of closing, just be friendly or ask them for directions.

And so on.

If you set realistic goals and achieve them, you will start to build confidence in yourself. Just keep pushing your limits until you are closing HBs left and right.
Once you do some actual approaches, post your experiences on here, and we will critique you.

Good luck!

I was a 21 year old virgin too(still 21). Now I can have great conversations. We all start out virgins!