Hi guys,

im here to ask for somehelp.im first going to briefly explain my situtation ...

i used to be very low on confidence when i was younger and shy but for past 3 years i have boosted my confidence by learning about the pickup artist and doing reading on the subject.
i was the guy who used to go to the nightclub for 1-2 years and never get to kiss or talk to anyone even if they would approach me i just wouldnt know what todo, ..
now everything has changed i know more than 100 girls that i met in the clubs , on average i have 1 onenight stand every month ( thats if i go out every week... ), had sex with more than 15 girls from ngihtclubs in past 2 years. i know all the do's and donts ( i guess)

i have invested huge amount of time and money on nightclubs (on average £4,000-£6,000 per year on taxi,drinking, and all that) ...... but the problem is i never get proper pretty girl! if they are too pretty then they wouldnt come home with me( only had 3 best looking girls but all i got was kiss and number). i know nightclub is not the best place because they look their best and there is too much competition...

i still go to the clubs but also go to the gym,library and try offline, i am glad that i have made it this far, I made significant progress in past 2-4 years but today i would like to take this to a next level. and get some real result. i have broken this into 2 section.

A( short term plan). find some normal looking people for short term and sex

B. find ideal person for relationship( long term plan)

i always write down my mistakes and try learn from my own experience. i do use online dating stuff too but rather not to have my partner from there ( makes mee feel looser,.., )

Im living in a new city, i have no family or friend which makes it harder for me! i also never had girl friend because i used to be shy and never focued on having one.

i understand this might not be sufficient information but based on what you have read so far could you please let me know if you see any problem with how and where im spending my time,money and energy ? i wantto make sure im on the right track and not making huge mistakes. i would like to accelerate toward geting to my plan A and B.

what would you do if you were me? where would you go ? and what would you make your top priority,and focuc?

im 28 years old, i have decent house,car and job.

thanks
Ben

hey

i am in a similar position. I have lived in a city for 2 years now and have had nothing but one night stands. The problem is that when i have lots of sex with different women it also make me want to be on my own, and get more and more.

ive met sum nice girls but i normally **** them off by gettin rid of them in the morning and they dont call back, because they know that im only with them cos i want to stick it in. im throwing it in 20 girls per year on average but it should be more cos im out twice a week.

to tell the truth, im not that worried about having a girlfriend yet and im 2 years older than u at the grand old age of 29. Its because when im out, im opening 10-20 sets per night so im meeting so many women, and i know eventually ill meet a girl who will just blow me away, in fact i met one in march this year, and took her out a few times but then i went to cancun for 2 weeks, then when i came back she had been shaggin her ex boyfriend.

so what im tryin to say is dont try and rush into getting a girlfriend, if you're out every week meeting girls then you will eventually meet a girl and develop a relationship.

as for the base of meeting girls. try some day game in city centres, or one which ive done recently is supermarket game, its so easy to open sets in grocery stores. you should meet girlfriend material there.

hope it helps dude

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JD

thanks for the reply, very well made points!! infact up to 2 years ago i was never bothered!! its just that sometimes it bothers me ... still dont knw exactly why ...
maybe cuz i never had one and feel i should have one cuz everyone has one, ! its probably one of them thing i get there and feel why did i do it lol

i also hate it when someone says why u havent got a gf ... u are a nice guy blah blah ...

i guess the other reason is because i spend too much time and money on geting drunk and onenight stands, i sometime feel its better and healthier to settle for something long term and more meaningfull but then i prefer being single and not making commitment if its going to be with wrong person.

with us men the older we get ( up to age of 40) the richer, the smarter, the more mature and wanted we become .! where as with girls they only good when they are aged between 18-24 after that its game-over for them.