ok this week is my first week for day 2s and out of 5 of them 2 flaked out! to be honest that kinda made me feel like shit. I redeemed myself with one of them by texting the next day pretending i flaked as well and she apprentice felt insulted and we went to the movies. But now i have another potential flake and im not sure what to do.

Ok i texted her 4 times of the course of 2 days with no fucking reply for the 1st 3 text and knowing that we have a date in a few hours i am now all weired out so my last text was a disinterest one that said...

"dont take this the wrong way, ur a pretty face, but im kind of getting cold feet about meeting u, u do seem nice, but ru anything more than just beautiful? i just feel alittle uncofrtable meeting a stranger, i dont mind coming BUT do u REALLY have something to bring to the table other than ur looks?"

her response in a text

"um nit sure how to respond to that. all i will say is u pursued me. so at this point i dont feel i need to "prove" myself as some1 that has more to myself than my looks. the only way u will know is through my actions. so with that said. do what u gotta do. either way i aint tripping"

What should i do? not go? tell her im in? im confused please help asap

that sounded kinda weak.... even if you were trying to bring her down a notch... you layed the same point on tooo thick.

kinda sounds like you ARE intimidated by her?


what are you worried about actually? that she wont show or that you arent good enough for her and you're not realyl doing what you should to prevent the flake?

truly?

"you pursued me" i like that.. she knows whats up.. as opposed to playing a game like "oh i thought we were just gonna be friends" which woulda been shittier to deal with....

i think your message even tho intended the opposite made you show too much interest and I think she can tell you dont fully back that up. maybe she gets the idea from your first meeting.

whats the date? a movie? (ew)
do a bar... grab a pint... bars are loud and distracting its calming to the chaotic mind.. silence in a restaurant breeds mad thinking.. even a noisy coffee shop .

as for what to text her next... well u ned to kinda recover from that if shes still interested and she didnt just say "well then whatever... forget it" it was more "well then wahtever.. you figure it out dude"

so text her back something direct, confident and reassuring like.


"makes sense. nice.. you just got a point, whether you want it or not anyway, sounds good. I'll see ya soon. regardless you're starting to sound like you might be a pretty cool friend"

yes ... say FRIEND.
she already has this idea that you are pursuing her.. cut that off and make her try and earn that again... "what.. friend? he just wants to be my friend?" which is starting to back up your original message...


if she still flakes.. you need to work on your approach and/or text game to limit that shit.

and your text STYLE and also your approach need to match the image you are trying to portray in the actual content.

ie.
saying "ill fuk you up man!!!" all stuttering like and timid.. isnt gonna scare anyone u know.... doesnt match..


good luck

oh and day 2's are easy...

decide before you go out what you WANT from it.

- good time out? drinks and laughs
- movie, boring time maybe just end up being a decent friend.networking
- bring her home get laid that night
- bring her home but just to hang out, escalate to kissing and leave it thee

decide what you WANT and then during the night you can get a feel for whats possible...
don't go out thinking "ill let her steer it where she wants" wont work you gotta take control subtly...

i usually use things like "we'll grab a pint and chat for 22.7 mins and if i dont think youre annoying than we can MAYBE go home and play some drunken rock band and eat skittles... unless your allergic to cats then ill eat skittles and you can eat reactins. fun stuff,. i know."

but i donno if you'll get away with that at this point. takes some decent talkin up to that to get her to be like "haha.. ok .. IM not annoying! what if i dont like YOU huh?!"
to which i say " oh i can assure you, 100% that i am definitely...DEFINITELY annoying as hell.....but im cute see ya soon"

yours will probably say "k.. im not coming to your house tho... "

but thats good for future ref


if you're worried about what to do or say.. dont....

dont think.. soon as you see her.. say "oh... werent you taller?....its ok its ok.. ha"
catch her off guard.... but give her a hug.. smile..."you smell nice"

then go wherever and talk about whatever. let her talk. bring up random things like pets and music... "oh ive seen that band 3 times. they are phenominal live.. but not as good as so and so i saw when i was on vacation.... you take any vacations this year?"

its easy. dont be nervous.. talk about ANYTHING but ask statement and questions to let her talk..


im typing too much jsut go and figure it out.. and DONT WORRY.