So i really need help. I open all my sets so far with observational openers, like i see something shes wearing or has on and i comment on that. So far it has gone really well with those openers. Then i follow it up with the get to kno you questions like "where are you from" or " what kind of classes you have"( im in college).So i guess my problem is i cant build attraction. I can be friendly and build comfort but i want to know how do you guys transition from guy she just met to being flirty with her and build attraction?




Any advice would be awsome.
Thanx

I would also like to know this !

This might not be helpful... but this is my take.

I like to (within my head) put myself above girls, so I feel more comfortable with them. This helps with what follows. I don't get too hung up about them when im talking to them, I just throw some negs, DHV, and maybe run some fun routines (5 lies, number games, maybe some cold reading for fun). This not only keeps her interested in you and the conversation but also seperates you from the other guys.


Any questions about what I've said or anything else I'll be glad to give what I can



GrifterUK

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sexual state
sexual frame
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look at the stickies on this board.

I personally try to get past the "getting to know you shit" unless they're the ones asking those questions. I try to get onto a conversation that friends would have, like something relevant in pop culture or the current SPAM. getting onto a sexual topic is extra points.

other than that, body language, being witty/funny, basically projecting to them that you are someone worth talking to, and that they should desire you, rather than the other way around.

Lately I've been acting a little more like an asshole, in that I act somewhat disinterested in them... I dog on them, and make fun of them, but in a joking manner. That said, I make sure to come across as only HALF-joking, to keep them guessing and make them basically want to see what I'm going to do/say next.

Then, escalate the sexual talk/flirtiness/kino until you can go in for the kill.

I'm new to this whole "methodizing your game" thing, but this is what I've learned so far. If someone wants to critique my understanding go ahead, I have only to learn more.

Personally ChiefBx I want to start kino asap, though make sure you've built up comfort first. But everything else you've said is pretty much hitting the nail on the head

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Thanks Grifter,

What are your favorite kino techniques? I've been working on it myself, as I feel it's one of my weak points. As a kid I always kept my hands to myself even with my guy friends (not a fan of rough-housing), but I'm changing that.

Lately I've been working on playfully pushing a girl when she says something I pretend is ridiculous/worth dismissing. Poking seems awkward and creepy to me, and I feel like putting a hand on her arm when I'm saying something "important" or "insightful" can go either way.

That said, if I can tell she's really into me, I've got no problem putting my arm around them or my hand on their thigh, but I'm talking about "escalating" kino more than "closing" kino

I've got very few I like to do but I just kinda go with the flow of the conversation and see what feels comfortable.

When I meet a girl, for the first time or not, I get kino. If someone's introducing you, go with a hug or a handshake, keep it brief. You've established the start of kino.

I like to do a routine from mystery's reality show The Pick-Up Artist. It involves pretending to wrap string around a girls two index fingers when the hands are clasped together. See if you can get a better description on here or elsewhere.

My obvious one if you're are a club is a) dancing whilst b) holding her hand. Easy. Do it.

Otherwise I just see whats comfortable.

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- You make your own luck

I can definitely recommend the DiCarlo escalation ladder, it helped me get from useless to.. well, not useless.

- Trices

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Good call, I swear almost no one puts effort into reading the
forums before posting... Sigh.

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