Hey everyone, I'm new to this forum and really the idea of developing a consistent method for pickups.

I'm a college sophomore, so I spend a lot of time on the weekends at parties my fraternity throws. Since they're almost all off-campus, the parties will generally have around 30-40 girls, and let's say that there's generally around 5-10 options for me to possibly close with by the end of the night.

However I'm a fairly skinny guy, my freshman year, I think I came off a little too strongly to some girls (usually while blackout drunk), so it's really really important to me to not come off as "creepy" again.

My question is, if I'm talking to a girl, and we seem to be hitting it off pretty well, should I stick with this girl until it's time to make a close/she expresses disinterest? Or should I move around, opening new sets and talking to new girls, and hope that by the time the party winds down, I can re-open conversation with one of the girls in order to pull off the close?

I feel like talking to a lot of girls is good practice, but I also feel like it gives the other girls time to get distracted/drunk/be swooped on by other guys. I've seen some pickup experts advocate sticking with a girl until she fucks you or tells you to fuck off, but I'm unsure how this would go in a small-to-medium sized house party setting, because I do NOT want to seem creepy or infatuated with one girl.

What is your general rule for when you think a girl *might* be DTF at the end of the night, but that time is still a good 2-3 hours away? Stick with her, or move around?

Seriously, no one has anything to contribute?

Do you focus attention on one gal until she tells you to buzz off/fucks you, or do you move around putting moderate game on many girls?

Hey, in these kind of warm set situation: parties, chilling or any other social gathering where you usually know a bunch of people there, you have the possibility to demonstrate you social side to that girl.

When you are interacting with her, frame it sexually, kino escalate, she need to understand your intention, calibrate well. At the same time, you are in a party! Enjoy time with your friends, frat bro, meet new people, interact with more girl, mainly be social. Introduce her to your friends, random people or what ever, just make it fun.

There is many good side here, you are showing her that you can be a sociable partner who is fun to be around, you demonstrate that she is NOT your only reason to be there, so you don't come across as needy and finally, if that interaction goes nowhere, well you already have talked to other girls that night that you can game now.

Have a blast at your parties and talk to a lot of people, in the worst case you have fun, best case you get new friends, multiple numbers and a lay or a new girlfriend.

I really a good post somewhere else on this forum about a guy at a college party who came up with a social proofing hug game, where he would take the girl around and they would have a competition to see who would get the most hugs, etc.

My advice: try both and see what works for you or see what kind of time frame these parties have and the social dynamics that emerge (ex. come 1am people tend to stay/go, pair off, etc). I would go around the party and establish social rapport, scout everyone out, and lay the foundation for 2 or 3 girls that seem promising and then come back to one later on, although I definitely have been in your situation where I lost out at a party because I didn't come back soon enough...

If you want to shed the 'creep' factor, I recommend having some wing women/pivots/female friends to help dispel that falsehood and then also not to reach the levels of black out drunkeness again; but if people see you're cool and social you'll be just fine.

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Being that I'm in college and have a decent understanding of how everything works there, I'd say the last thing you want to do is find one girl and then become a clinger to her. Not sure how parties are on your campus, but mine usually start around 9:30 and go until 3 or 4 in the morning then people disperse to after parties with only friends or people they met/pick up. That's the mindset I'm posting this in.

Say you're at a party and you meet one girl early on, do you really want to be 'velcro-ed' to her for 5+ hours? Think of all the other people in general there that you can meet. I'm sure there will be some other cool girls at your fraternity parties. When I go to parties like this, I have a certain habit that goes as so: For the first little bit I am there, I try to establish some sort of value with everyone in general by being a little louder than other people, laughing with my friends (guys and girls), and getting on the beer pong table. Bullshit around with other guys and make friends. Most of the time the random guys you talk to will know girls there. You're cool with him so talking to his girl friends will be that much easier for you. You have someone to introduce you if needed and not cockblock you. When one of these girls straggle on over, just make a comment about her and take it from there. My roommate likes to point at that she came over JUST to interrupt your conversation at that point.

Or you can take the other route and just cold approach which I enjoy as well. Everyone goes to a party for one reason. To have fun. No girl is going to a party with the mindset, "I hope no one talks to me at all. I hate people and I plan on being a a closed up bitch all night". That's just not the case. Girls take time to get ready and look good. Just talk to whatever girl is closest to you. It's as simple as just turning around and saying, "Hi, I'm _____", smiling, and offering a simple handshake. Nothing extreme, so don't get too lost in the process haha.

TL;DR: Don't stick to one girl. Socialize with absolutely everyone. Have a good time, because there is no reason you shouldn't.

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