I'm having trouble figuring out how to approach, not open, in this environment.

At a mall I'm walking down a hallway and there is a slow stream of people, including targets, walking opposite me. Due to the logistics there should be a lot of targets that walk the opposite direction of me intending to come towards me and then continue walking past me uninterrupted towards wherever they go. I tend to watch this stream and have say 10-15 seconds from when I see a target till she's even with me. What I've done in the past is say Hi once she's about 10 feet away and stop as I do so. Unfortunately it's too abrupt and I can see the fight or flight response in her body language. How do I approach so I'm not getting that reaction?

Clarification: I have been known to walk on the wrong side of a hallway to try and take advantage of these logistics. The reaction is coming from the abruptness of the interaction not what or how I say it.

Ask for directions or ask her where she bought her outfit because you need to buy clothes for your sister for her birthday and her outfit looks "so nice/cute" on her.

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Pleyher,

It's not WHAT I'm saying, it's what I'm doing, or not doing BEFORE I open my mouth that's not working. I'm making her uncomfortable, I know why, but don't have a better way. I simply cannot suddenly try to interject with a conversation while she's walking like that.

YES YOU CAN. I've done it many times.

But unless I watch you in action I can't see what you are doing wrong. Do you approach with a smile? I always do.

I say "Hey.. excuse me!" and I come off very friendly. Of course nothing works 100% of the time because some women are bitches or have some other issue. But you don't want those women anyway.

One important thing to remember as a player is that failure is not always YOUR fault. Sometimes the woman is just a weirdo or a bitch.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

Example:
Ross Jeffries used an example in one of his vids in which he was walking down a flight of stairs while a HB was walking up. All he said was "Style to burn..." as he passed her and apparently she stopped turned around and asked him what he said. He repeated himself and they ended up getting some coffee right then.


This is what I would do:

First of all I would be swaggering down the hallway DHVing. Chin up and shoulders back. Try not to eyeball fuck her the entire way down the hallway, but try to initiate eye contact 1-2 seconds before your opener.

Smirk at the same time you initiate eye contact and hold throughout your opener.

Whatever your opener is, when you use it, dont stop walking dead in place...As I am opening, i would severely slow down as to almost stop walking, but not entirely. Also, keep your body pointed the direction that you are walking. Only turn your head as she closes distance. This will not trigger the fight or flight response as much because it will seem as though you have better things to do and it's ok if she doesn't stop and talk (little bit of DHV here as well). You have a very limited amount of time to grab her attention so I would do my best to find openers that hit an emotional note with her. Try to make it something she probably hasn't heard before. Try some cold-reads based on what they're wearing, how they're walking, how they're voice sounds, etc. If you're right or the read is intriguing, it'll catch them off guard and will be forced to stop and talk.

If it grabs her attention and she stops walking, stop as well and turn around for the follow up (obviously )

Because you have a very limited time to gain attention, be ready with a quick follow up with your opener. If you open with a neg, have an IOI in your pocket. If you open with an IOI (maybe a genuine complement) have a quick neg in your pocket. Always keep the calibration!


Going off of what PlayHer_Man said, not all girls will want to stop. Some people are busy during the day and really can't. Just get better with your openers and you should see more of them stopping and talking.


Good luck!

Your reply is more what I was looking for. Thanks, I'll try this again latter this week.

Any updates? How did it work out?