I always struggle with the feeling, as soon as a girl comes close, i don't want a serious relationship because i think there is a hotter and nicer girl out there somewhere


how do you deal with this?

thanks

I think we've all been here before. I don't want to judge, but this could be due to age and maturity. Are you maybe between 18 and 21? I am 20, and I've had this feeling with almost every girl I've been with. I'm in a serious relationship now for 5 months. At first I didn't had this feeling, but there were times where she would make me mad about something or just make me feel less (Not on purpose) and I would go like "fuck this I don't need to stand ths shit when there's probably a better girl out there" but then you realize that you actually have something with a girl, and you value that. I love her and she loves me, and I think, even though I don't fully understand it, thats far more important.

This is as sure a sign as there has ever been that you haven't been with enough women yet.

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You are obviously still very young and immature - no offence meant at all!!

I went through this stage from age 17 - 21 where every guy I met and started to get close with, I ran a mile in the other direction because I didn't want to be tied down. I wanted to be single and meet lots of different guys until I met that one amazing guy who caught my gaze and kept it. I found him and we have been together for 2 years.

How do you deal with it? Just don't let it upset or own you! You obviously aren't ready for a serious relationship. Trust me, when you meet that "right" one, you will not be wonderign if there is anything better out there because you will know she is the best girl in the world.

Good luck

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So she is not the right one.

Too bad, i like to hang out with her, kiss her, but i'm not in love with her.

I need to tell her.

mate, you're right. the chances of you finding the best chick on earth are billions to 1, so it's up to you. Do you want to settle for what you've got or keep looking for someone better. You will always find someone better eventually.

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Ive had this before. Time - Heals everything. Even in the beginning to a new relationship, it lets something evolve between two people. Im telling you, if there is an attraction (ALways should be an attraction) THen the feelings will evolve

there is an attraction. we kissed on a party, if i wouldn't liked her i didn't kissed her i think

i like to be with her, but i'm not in love. and i feel its not a good sign, and i might better look for someone i really fall in love with


however i think you are right: i'll take time. and maybe the feelings will come later?

thanks for all help. really appreciated

The grass is NOT always greener!

I told her everything yesterday. She was sad, and i was too.

She's a nice girl, friendly and goodloocking, would say HB7,5/8. But i'm not in love with her.. there is no "spark".

I just cant promise her to stay faithfull with her, as soon as i would see a girl which i'm really attracted to, i would have to break up everything..

Did i do the right thing?

You can't expect to chose when and with who to fall in love. If only it was that easy ...
You also can't expect to be in love with your girlfriend, you don't have to be in love with someone to be with them. I don't know how long you've been with her, but if you've just started, you can't be so quickly in love with her. I didn't fell in love with my girlfriend at the beginning, but now I am.
Thing is, you shouldn't be thinking to yourself "Well I'm not in love, why am I with her?" if you're like that, then you're gonna leave every girl. Love comes with time, maybe you will start caring for her. You like her, thats a start, and there's attraction. Don't be too desesperate about finding "the one" ... She will come, when you're ready.

Just hang out together at the party, again we kissed a lot of times and danced.. we didn't fuck as yet however

nevertheless another hot spanish girl i start to know drives me crazy. just searched her facebook.

thats just exactly what i mean. i'm such a fuckin' freak. i cant be happy with what i've got, i always want better or more..

guys think i need more help


everytime i see this girl on a party i want to stick with her, and dance / kiss with her like i did before.

as soon there's another girl there is no problem.. but obviously there is NO other girl right now.. so i don't know what my feelings are. Probably i miss her only for not being lonely.. on the other hand if i see her i feel attracted to go and talk with her and begin all over again..

just cant decide..i'm afraid i'll never get anything else

You have a case of oneitis. Either stick with her or don't, you can get anyone you want. The question is how much do you care about her?

Stop being a drama queen.

How about proposing the idea of an open relationship. That way you can still see her, sleep with her etc.. but have the freedom of meeting other girls.