Hey guys, been practicing the game for a few months now and I need some quick advice.

This past weekend, I went to the Electric Zoo (electronic dance music festival in NY) and I met an HB 10 on accident. I accidently bumped into her while I was dancing. I apoligized, she accepted and we both went about our business. A few seconds later, I realized she was the third wheel with her friend and her friends b/f. I opened her, we started dancing, taking pictures together, etc.

An hour later, her friends were leaving, so she actually number closed me. We hugged, kissed on the cheek, and then she left. She sent me a text when she arrived home, etc. Through texting, I set up a day 2 for this Sat, 9/18/10. We have been texting all day, everyday since we met 9 days prior. Due to this, I have been able to build attraction (physically and emotionally), comfort, and rapport. Shes has me text her when i wake up, before I go to bed...she always says "goodnight Muah."

It's been stated that we are both into each other on a physical and an emotional level. We role play about getting married and taking vaca's but it is always followed w/ a response such as "im so ready to go but we need to hang out first"

She is educated, family-oriented, she has goals but she also likes to have fun...after all, we were at an electronic dance music event.

Here is my question:

When I meet up with her on Saturday, should I escalate kino immediately? I was thinking to start where I left off (hug her hello and greet her with a kiss on the cheek).

Since we have been speaking for a while, I believe that body language and kino will be the most important aspects to focus on. Any thoughts?

In addition, some ideas for a day 2. Prob going to be at night in NYC. Lounge, dinner, dance club? I want the day 2 to be intimate but not romantic.

Thanks for the advice/help guys!

im in a similar situation..

i have a date this week with someone educated, smart (they are diff things), independant, tough -willed etc etc... hates men... thinks they all want one thing.. doesnt buy into bullshit.. doesnt give it up easy.. shittests every 10 sec at frist.... but also very playful..

ive been in relationships for quite awhile.. so im rusty at the dating shit... usually i just do the first date at my place for movies and dinner.. but some girls are really shielded and if it was a quick pick up with not too much talk in between then you cant do this.

if you have 9 days of talk... why not say something like

"so im thinking movie and dinner at my place... but theres some really important you have to decide....... then shoot her three things she can choose from for dinner...." that is providing you can cook.. that has NEVER failed for me yet as a FIRST date(day 2). but this is after a week of phone, text/email building comfort and attraction...
if you truly have that . then id say go for that..... and hopefully you know how to escalate at your house...


otherwise, restaurant something that has a nice rep but still has tv's or something showing the games.... not a keg but not a boston pizza either.... and just be witty and ask open questions/statements and let HER talk as much as possible i think is the best route.. let her start investing in you....keep eye contact.. body language is prolli what you should focus on more than content.. eye contact, smile, seductive looks, smirks etc... pushing her away at funny times, holding her hand when you say somethign serious then take it away.... repeat and sometimes remain serious. that kinda stuff...

don't be needy.. and dont be too impressed tho...just let her tell you about herself... and listen...throw in a "neg-style) joke on SOME of the things she says that are aimed to impress you.. bring her back down...

"well. i used to model a lot"... "ya? im guessing hand model?" *smile*
"School is really important to me ya.. im studying to be a biomechanical engineer." "oh wow?.....thats incredible.... they make pez dispensers right?"

but actually be like "thats really kewl....i enjoy reading about philosophy too.. but im more into social interactions and human psychology."

if she says "my parents made me go into this field blah blah" don't say "oh that sucks"...

say "aww.. that'd make me feel really pressured I think..." and she'll naturally take that as a "howd that make u feel"


etc... i donno.. just be comfortable and treat it as her time to talk.. YOU picked her up.. let her show YOU it was worth it now....

treat it that way.... if you're out tho... slip in some things that are interesting at home.. do it smoothly.. "oh ya.. my cat was into biology as well.... well he knocked over a jar of pickels and mayo the other day....def looked like some kinda of biological experiment... haha. hes cute tho.. im taught him that... ul love him"

can mention meetin your cat as a way to bring her in... as a supporting reason.. have one or two.. or even just .. lets watch a movie and meet my cat..

not the best examples but .. you get the idea ... if you have comfort, honestly your best bet is "lets grab a pint at "whatever pub is nearby, even boston pizza is good" ..when im reaonably convinced you arent a stalker.. then we'll head in for dinner and a movie.. but you have a very important decision to make about dinner and a movie at my place.........then throw the dinner choices... and/or movie choices...."

etc


good luck.


Oh and open the encounter with big hug and cheek pecks.
dont forget to smile!

No homo, we might be the same person...i was dating for 2 years...broke up.. was left w no gamelol....im new as well (3-4 months).

I like the advice...thank you.

I like the apt but she lives in NJ and i live on Long Island so were are meeting up in NYC. We already have a 3rd and 4th date planned...Going to another electronic dance music on sept 25 in NYC and we agreed to cook together.

Now that I am typing, maybe we could take a cooking class together in NYC. Anyways, if not that, I am thinking a lounge / wine bar (shes loves wine).

What are you doing w/ your HB?

Hmm not sure I understand this comment... was there a post between mine and yours??

anyway.. im not new at all... ive been in a long term for awhile.. but i was good before and during as well.. long term ended just a week ago... *srhgus*


but anyway. the initial plan was a drink somewhere to chat.. since im working late that ngiht tho and neither of us can resched she suggested after my meeting. i said fine but we just staying in then...she has class early but i said.. suck it up for one night.. so she coming over tomorrow night...just staying in.. vid games, movies and whatevs..

she also lives like 20 mins away so easier i guess...