I'm a decent looking guy. Getting over approach anxiety and feeling that I am the prize has done a lot for my confidence. Its so funny to create situations where every girl I meet seems at least a little interested and IMMEDIATELY tries to shit test me. I've become emotionally un-affected by this until today when I didn't know what to do.

While working at a restaurant, one of my coworkers, a hb7.8 was basically shit testing me. She's acting like she's gonna pour stuff on me, trying to make me react, hanging around to see HOW I react and handle situations, till she gets a little to close. Deep down I obviously don't mind her being close, but I used the "Don't touch until I get to know you a little better" routine and she got back with "well what are you going to do."

This girl was giving me IOI's and shit-testing me, but I know that she has dated bigger guys in the past and is very confident about herself. I was controlling the frame very well and know that I did not come across as needy or affected by anything. I also know that girls simply want someone to protect and care for them. Whats a smaller white guy to do? (not shrimp, 6'0", but skinny) Thinking about it now, I think prob just subcom DHV's like there's no tomorrow, but I'd be interested on some of your thoughts.

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headhancho

my advice would be to watch the heavy weight UFC fights, size doesnt really matter, i've seen a guy outweight his opponent by 50+ lbs and still kick the living lights out of them...remeber the physical is not as important to women as it is to us.

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I know that size is not THE determining factor in getting the girl (I've seen guys smaller than me pull hot girls) but what I was asking is how do I build attraction with a girl like that when I am not a huge dude

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headhancho

When you ask a girl to qualify herself she has to think beyonf the physical, after a while you'll realise that very little emphasis is placed on image by women in regards to men. I mean obviously if you dress well and take care of yourself you will get noticed but its not as important to them as it is to us.

Try internalising the fact that you may not be huge but you more than make up for it in your confidence, humor and intelligence. Some of the best PUA's i know are skinny guys.

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What a title!

Damn, if you're 6'0", how tall is she?

I think she is 5'7-8"

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headhancho

first of all if you're 6'0, you're freaking tall! haha... i'm 5'8 and can game girls about the same size as me. I'm not really interested in anyone taller than me though, so it works for me...

I guess you could work out a little more to get more built/defined. I would approach them the same way I would approach any other girl. just give her negs for being shallow or into the typical meathead... i dont know, use whatever.... just feel it out. if she shit tests you for being skinny just call her judgmental which is a sign of insecurity... just act like you don't care about getting with her... act cocky... don't be needy... and you should be fine..

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by Casual (Age 20, Upcoming PUA)

You're lucky to be 6'0 . I'm only 5'9 and I still game hb8s, 9s, & 10s even if they are taller than me. Something I tell myself when approaching, especially if I know that a lady is used to bigger guys, is that "I may not be a big guy, but I'm all she'll ever need."

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Bdot

Heck, look at mystery. He's pretty lanky but he has no problem conveying that he is, as he says, a protector of loved ones. I don't think it's so much about physical appearance as it is about showing that you're willing to step up and take care of business when you need to, using whatever means you can.