Hey guys, hopefully this is the right subsection to ask for advice in regards to my situation which should belong to opening area.

A bit about myself, I'm a super AFC who just discovered the game. Has only been in a relationship once in high school (she liked me first, so I got lucky). Didn't really like her but I just do it for the sake of seeing what its like lol. It only lasted few months as you probably expect.

Anyway, I'm currently in my 1st year of Uni. Now to my situation where I need some advice:

I was assigned to work in a group project for one of my subject. Getting to the point, after few weeks together I have started to develop a feeling for a girl in my group. Prior to this, there were no sparks so I wasn't bothering with trying to build attraction or trying to get to know her on a deeper personal level. I was just there as a good group member and leader (since no one seems enthusiastic in taking the role lol)

Anyway, it is near the end of the project and now I started to feel something for her. However, I'm at lost how to take this further ? helppp...

It seems that I'm in a situation where the frame is that we are just colleague doing assignment together. I feel very weird to just be super friendly out of sudden or even try flirting. Since our relationship seems strictly just for business. So guys, please drill, grill and give me some input on what should I do ? I was thinking I should get to know her better and take it one at a time, but since the project is ending really soon I really don't have that much of a time.

I was thinking to ask her to help me to shop for my sister's bday present (it is coming soon). It might be kamikaze thou LOL... out of the blue just asking for a favour like that without actually knowing her well. Anyway, thanks for reading my rant.

The best way to break the frame with this girl is to "discover" something about her.You know her well enough to make small talk so get the conversation off topic so you can elicit some of her values, is she romantic? Does she care about the environment? etc etc Once you have this value make that the tipping point for your attraction, this is the catalyst to your new frame of interest,
This sets the frame that;yeah you have noticed she's an attractive woman but beauty is cheap then all of a sudden you get to know her as a person and NOW the attraction is there BECAUSE of this new information.You can ramp up the IOI's now, she's thinking you like her for her! If she is an HB9+ this will work very well.

I assume you have a small talk with her. You have to keep in mind that if you don't know how to pass shit-tests, how to tease a girl, press her attraction switches you will most likely loose her (if u get her).

I don't know if it's a good thing but my first gf was a HB 9.5, had all qualities I ever want in a woman. She set a super high standard. Problem is that she became the boss as I was doing everything she asked because I was afraid to lose her. Only after you get enough girls you will become more confident and not afraid to lose the girl.

If you let her be the dominant/leader of your relationship she will lose attraction for you.

This was the preface. I would either plan something real cool that she would like and over sell the event. If she joins then she will have associations of fun with you. You can start doing some of those and at some point go get some food or drinks. Get some booze and try to escalate physically.

Try it and start learning game. It's impossible being with girls without teasing and push/pull dynamics.

cheers,
s-man

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First of all man, you should be trying to make as many friend at uni as you can. Having an active social life, you will automatically start meeting more girls and if your the guy walking around uni hi-fiving everyone then girls are gonna want to know who you are.

In regards to this girl, considering you havent actually gotten the relationship outside of the whole colleagues mentality then I would recommend trying to get the whole group to meet at a bar or something for a few drinks after class. Even if she doesn't come you might make some new friends and then she will hear all about that crazy drinks night she missed next time you are all together. If she does come then thats great, its a group outing so doesn't seem so threatening for her to agree as opposed to a one-on-one with someone she hasn't really spoken to properly.

Once you have her out in a group environment then you can start to work on talking to her in a social setting instead of school setting and try to isolate her. That will give you a chance to figure out what kind of girl she is and if she is worthy to be hit on. Then, you just take it from there man.

Thats how I would play it anyway.

Good luck!!

Cheers,
Creamy

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