Hey, i'm new here and need some help with something i've not had to deal with. Now i'm very good talking to girls (i'm quite naturally cocky-funny) and have had a lot of experience but for the last year i've been in a relationship; she broke up with me and i want her back. We broke up because it was a long distance relationship and i really didn't make much of an effort at all.

At first i did the common thing of being spiteful to her one moment and then grovelling the next. Well she messaged me yesterday to see how i've been (i've been making sure i'm out a lot and getting myself in pics on FB) and I told her that I went out on a date on Friday night, which I did, and also that i was done grovelling and being pathetic because that isn't me. As soon as i replied with that i just got a message saying "wow......" and then she tried talking to me on chat saying "so you're moving on, i'm glad". This was after days of stonewalling me and not being on chat, she only came on to talk to me. Well i wasnt there so i just replied to her over message again.

She told me that she was meant to be meeting this guy later that day so i told her "i don't want to know". Later that night i got a message off of her asking me to add her on SPAM again, so i did. She told me that she didn't go and meet this guy and that she was scared of being alone. I told her that i all ready told her how i feel so i don't really know what to say. She then told me that she'd been shopping and showed me what she bought, it was bras and panties.... She kept mentioning the date i had so i think it's safe to say that she still does care about me. But then at the same time, she was saying that "I treated her like shit and she made herself hate me to lose feelings for me and that I had blew my chance, also that i need to move on". Bit hard to do when she SPAM me all this shite...

Well anyway, i want to get back with her and make her realize that things would be the same as before. Any help would be much appreciated.

heh same shit, different day eh mate?

Girls almost always say this, after a scenario like this. So what can you do about it?

Nothing special, just prove to her that you care about her. Let her judge you by your actions not your words.

Goodluck mate, hope it works out well for you in the end!

Yeah i've been trying this but i swear she's so stubborn it's stupid. I can pretty much talk her around anything but it's the "it won't be the same" and "you had your chance and you hurt me" lines which stump me....

What's funny is that I managed to get her too chase me and try and talk me into the relationship....

Well if anyone in the future reads this and is interested, i said to her "I think your right, we probably are better off apart but we should still be friends since we get on so well with each other". I won't be getting back with her anytime soon but it made her flip out, she went from wanting me to be her friend and talking to me, too wanting to know what made me change my mind so quickly and saying that we can't be friends anymore. I'm sure if I wanted her back and gamed her a bit, i would get her back but i remembered how much i love being single so i dont really care any more...