Ever get the feeling nothing's going to change? I can learn PU, become a better person, routinely know how to DHV myself in the face of someone trying to DLV me (i.e., test of wills or "shit test")--and feel good about myself, but at the end of the day nothing's going to be different. My history with women is 0% success (search the Intro forum for more info). So based off that sometimes I feel 'What's the point?'. "PUA" ... just another book, tip, self-improvement, advice, website, etc. that I'm going to learn from and accumulate, but like all other things before it will just eventually get stored or shelved awat. I know, not the way to be thinking. I probably just didn't get enough sleep last night and after a day's work feel a bit in a funk.

You will fail a lot, but don't think of it like that. Its not about whether you succeed or fail, its about whether you learned. Every time you crash and burn is a learning experience if you are grasping the underlying reasoning and psychology behind PU. Eventually you will reach a point where you become good and it snowballs and you get better and better and before you know it, things are the way you want them to be. But PU isn't going to fix your life. You need to fix your life yourself, PU is just a tool to be applied to your life to fix a few broken things. If you are this down, then maybe there are other things that need to be fixed as well and PU can't fix everything.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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agreed, I am in the same boat man i still get those thoughts as well... but in my short career here so far i already feel more confident and more social then ive been in a long time... it seems it takes a lot of work to build up, but i am assuming that it will get easier and easier, and although it might not change my life completely around i do feel i can become a better person, by the general process, in the least...
i say, im not gonna give up cause my world definetly won't change if i don't do anything

It's just a funk and no doubt there will be other days also. I see PU as being one of many tools I can use--not looking for it to fix everything. So far, I like how it gets guys (me) to think and view things (differently), and I believe this alone will help me improve remarkably and become a better person.

Just having PU in the back of my mind I think helped a lot. I was in a situation where I was put on the spot by a female, but I think because of recent viewings of the VH1 show, reading up information on the internet, and feeling a little bit of the PU in me, I stood up for myself and flipped it on her, sort of out of the blue. And I was interested in her too--sometimes (or normally) I wouldn't do that because I want the girl to like me. But, at the time I thought fck that ... and in the end it it felt good and I didn't care whether she liked me or not--or saw me as an jerk.