A natural and a AFC are talking in a bar:
Natural: Nothing seems to be getting through to you for some reason, somethings stopping you. . .

AFC: I know, i dont get why I'm so bad. . . (During this the natural looks down, thinks, then looks up and smiles- he thinks he knows the problem)

Natural: Listen what do you think women want?

AFC: sense of humour?

Natural: Right, next?

AFC: Security?

Natural: right, final one?

AFC: To feel like there wanted?

Natural: You see, easy, women only really want those three things. Give it to them!

the AFC is annoyed by this- doesn't the natural understand anything? And so he says:

AFC: HOW? How do you make them feel that, thats what i don't get!

The natural smiles, his plan worked, his lesson is nearly finished

Natural: Right there, stop, thats what i wanted you to ask. This is presicely your problem. What you just said right then.

The AFC looked confused

Natural: You already do those things to women! Your already attractive! You asked "how?", under the impression that you aren't already like that? "Sense of humour", very few men haven't got a sense of humour. "Security", your naturally bigger, stronger and more domineering than women. "She wants to feel special", you'll realise you do that naturally too!

Listen why would nature make you unattractive to women? If you think that then you've gone crazy! Women wear make up not to make them attractive, but to enhance how attractive they are, because there already attractive- its the same for you! So be yourself simply means- don't be embarressed to tell people honestly how and what you think!

Sorry,but im gonna have to disagree with you.
Its the same of saying to the AFC:"Just be yourself".
And of course,this is not gonna take the AFC anywhere.

I'm going to have to defend myself here, the point basically is that men are built to be naturally atractive to women, as i said: "why would nature make you unnatractive?".

So by "be yourself", I didn't mean- "think the same and act the same as you were". But instead- "learn who you are more, by being more honest with yourself and acting on thosefeelings".

And then by learning to make yourself happy, you'll realise that women actually aren't that hard, because your not reliant on them.

I get the point of the plane, and yes i am a pro pilot , but like the previous comment i didn't mean 'be yourself'- ie. don't change anything.

I liked your last paragraph, your right we do live in a messed up dating world, the human male seems to be the only male on the planet who can't get laid lol. Acceptance is always the start to helping yourself, and too accept you need to be honest with whats wrong, you need to 'be yourself'.