I'm in College and I have been going to a lot of parties this summer. This last one was really fun. I had a few girls open me, and the conversation was just really good. I saw this girl standing all by herself, so I went up and started talking to her. (I had a bit to drink, and you don't really need that many pick up stuff here, so I just introduced myself.) It worked and she got the biggest smile. We were talking and I was making her laugh like crazy.

The cops busted the party, and I saw her leaving with her friend (who I had also been talking to) I ran over to her and said "Hey I thought we had really good conversation, give me your number." Her friend started singing in a mocking way to her, saying, "he wants your number, he wants you number" and then she told me.

I texted her two days later, asking if she was going to any other parties. She didn't answer back. I'm glad to be getting numbers now, this was a huge improvement, but how can I get them to always text back? Should I call their phone right there and put my name in as something stupid like 'prince charming'? that's what my friend suggested. By the way she was really hot!

I'm having exactly the same problems. I can close no worries but after a few days and we are freinds of Facebook or i have a no. It goes to pot. I can never get a reply let alone a second meeting. I've learnt it's best to run another opener on her to carry on from there with some DHV's and build up the rapport to offer she tags alone with me on an adventure but it's still not strong enough for her to want to do that. Any tips are welcomed with open arms!

Really? No answers? Come on somebody!

Cloudboy, is it possible for you to host a righteous party?

At this point, you have to find a picture that would provoke an interest or response, or possibly throw your own raging party, maybe send her a well-thought out text invite?

Just a few thoughts.

_________________
A strong man can do many things,

But the strongest knows he cannot do everything alone.

Try calling before texting next time. You may be fucked this time around though. Calling, especially as a student, is actually unusual, making you stand apart from all the random guys at the same party she talked to that night. Also, don't just text and be like "hey, we met at the party, whats up?" or crap like that. I'd text her the next time you and some friends are all going out somewhere, and be like "hey, my friends and I are all hitting up this (insert event here) and i was wondering if you wanted to join us". Or invite her and her friends, that way your boys can get some too. If you get snubbed again, move on. Loads of women out there.

^I love your name/avatar. I like the "prince charming idea". Also maybe wait a little longer.

Good advice yall. Thanks. So I will probably call next time, and I might do the prince charming thing or something similar. Also I will wait longer.

Just so i'm clear, your putting your number into her phone right? like she hands it over and you key it in and save it as Prince Charming? if so.. i like this..

But call for sure.. call and talk to her like you would talk to someone you've known for ages.. be casual, calm, collected.. develop rapport super quick and takes away awkwardness of barely knowing them.

I think you waited long enough, 2 days man.. that's good enough for them to have thought about you, forgotten, then you pop into their head again.. but in all honesty chicks in college get approached soo damn much you gotta run a fairly tight game to be ahead of the pack. Things move super quick.. like every 5 days new opportunity's are presented.. Don't fall into the abyss of zero care factor. Strike while the iron is hot!

When you get the number, rather than saying "Give us your number and let's stay in touch" which is what it appears to be happening, I would give a reason to be calling her for something.

You need to seed into the conversation early about an event of some sort later e.g. another party, a gig, coffee meet, visiting a cool gallery, shopping for clothes, etc. Get her into this and sell this idea.

Then when you call or text her once you've number closed, you have a reason to be texting/calling her rather than saying something boring like, "Hi it's me from the other night, how r u? x x"

Ok finally read something decent from Ash, definately give a reason for getting her number, not just we should keep in touch, maybe even plan something out or at least suggest something.

As for when you text her, I realize your suppose to wait 3 days or whatever, I generally have no problem with the next day. The biggest thing is the text must consist of something that they will remember you by and associate that with good feelings... she gave you her number, surely something went well during the night so bring that up. Two basic examples I kinda remember:

1. Forget why (guess her finger was hurt) but during the night made a splint for her finger with a pencil and scotch tape. Opening text was asking how it was holding up or if it needed surgery. Whatever she knows exactly who it is and that we had a good time the other night.

2. Randomly was talking with this girl maybe a min or two total throughout the night in a British accent, eventually K and # closed. Next day opened with something like "top of the morning to ya mate" whatever, associated the text with the accent from last night.

Plently more to say but thats a good start. O and personally think putting prince charming in her phone is kinda cheesy, if you play it out and blatently let her see your doing it maybe it will be kinda funny. Often times instead I will put thier name in the phone with some kind of nickname. Sometimes theyll like it, sometimes they wont and dont change it. Have a girl in my phone as Julie bj, been about 6 months and she still hates it but its kinda funny.

Good luck

I would be cheecky. Cocky confident theory. Be like, can I borrow your phone, take it, dial your number, and you answer your phone and be like. Is this the hottest guy in town? Hang up, look at her and be like, you just have the hottest guy in town in your phone.