Been dating my girl now for 8 months, and things've been going great..

But lately, i've been feeling sad, irritated.. Disappointed, in short - Not happy with her. The problem is that.. It's about nothing wrong with her, of course.. She has her flaws, but it's nothing major, and there's no reason for me to have theese feelings whatsoever .. The problem is me. I feel like i'm always riding a rollercoaster when it comes to her ; One day i love her more than anything on this earth, and the other day i hate her more than anything. I'm also normally supercalm about anything she does, i used to be comfortable with her hanging out with anyone, anywhere.. Now.. I go around with thoughts about her cheating 24/7.

I know that probably tomorrow i'll love her again, and the next day.. It's gone.. It's freaking me out, makes me want to break up with her, even though i know she's good for me..

Theese are feelings that's come up recently. I'm having a really tough time dealing with it, so any advice would be greatly appreciated. How can i regain the trust in her, how can i start being congruent in my feelings towards her again?

I'm dealing with the exact the same situation over here man. Sometimes im so sure that i love her and could never feel differently, and other times its the opposite.

Anyone have any advice here?

The usual "let's game each other" need.
I call it a need because,well...that's what it is.
These are all displays of your insecurity.And it will ruin your relationship,if you let it growing.

Well, that's great. But the thing i need here is some advice. Of course it will ruin my relationship, that's excatly what i'm trying to prevent it of doing.

Wow,Im currently going through similar shit.

Hey Koffertgutten,it was to a point that I thought I was bi-polar(lol)for being on a relationship high(emotionally),then the next,Im aggravating a needless fight.

How do I handle it?

Well I dont. I dont know what the F to do about this roller-coaster feeling.

I have no solution besides letting it play out.

But it's risky to leave it,becaue she may get fed up and leave.

My MILF gf asks me at times,"why does it seem like I intentionally spark an argument,is it that I want to break up?"

Hey Koffertgutten,perhaps we're fucking bored of being with the same chicc.

Perhaps the reality of being "tied down" and not free to explore is getting to us.

My gf is so un-emotional most times about things that it makes me bored and pissed.

Perhap she's too agreeable or passive.

After all,you did say she's a good girl(LTR type).

Maybe she's too good.

At times,my gf could be so agreable that I swear it's a cover-up for cheating.

Our solution?

I dont know.

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Wow, it's incredible how simlar our situations are..

The solution? Well, i guess we'll just have to live with it, there's no tactic or magic trick for this, however, perhaps if we distance ourselves abit.. They'd start being more active, i'm not sure..

yes you just gotta accept it..

what you are going through is just sentimentalism..

and sentimentalism is good.... but if it takes control, its a very bad thing! You gotta know how to disgungish sentimentalism from reality..

You can love a girl forever.. but you can walk down the street and see a beautiful girl and feel in love... Does this mean that the girl you curruntly love is not the one for you? but her in the street? No, its just sentimentalism.. All of the tings about feeling this and that... feeling the heart when you kiss her, when you hold hands and of all that.. after a lot of time that kind of feeling (Sentimentalism) fades away.. not because things are going bad between you two, or because its time "to see other people" its just how things are... but do not be sad..

When this sentimentalism fades away, (although it will always come and go, e.g when you spice things up ect).. When sentimentalism looses a bit its power.. You can start really loving a girl..

Loving a girl.. Loving a girl does not mean that you feel something when you hold hands or feeling happy when you hear the words "i love you".. Its just loving a girl inconditionally.. Loving her good parts, her bad parts.. Loving her weird ears, loving how she makes you mad.. loving the way you sometime just can hate her and then love her..

Its a very complex thing, but you just gotta let it all happen, and accept it..

If after sentimentalism, just take take it cool, and never get idle! and you will soon know if the girl is a keeper or not..

Thanks for the psychological break down Bimmer:we have a better understanding now Koffertgutten.

I guess we just have to let it play out.

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Thanks alot for that excellent reply, it's really appreciated.. Makes me abit more comfortable relaxing about it now.

Thanks again!

- Koff out

A bit same here... Sometimes I feel unconditional love, then other times I feel like I can't trust her worth shit. She's done some things to merit that attitude from me though. I'm just trying to pry away my emotional connection to her so i dont get hurt..

Could you elaborate on that? Explain more, pry away your emtional connection to her so i dont get hurt?

You cant pry away your emotional connection in a relationship..
Shes dont some things to merit that?

Can tell you two things: Never be a drama queen, if shes done something dont think about it forever, has she tried to make things betteR? then get over it, if you still feel anger, talk about it with her... Unless she has cheated ect, then its normal..

And never, let pride control your relationship man! never..

"And never, let pride control your relationship man! never.."

I learnt that the hard way.. Now she wants to go abroad to study, the relationship will never last through a year without seeing each other, it's over the day she makes the decision.. And that'll happend soon. I'll be back in the game within a month or two, guess that's the positive side, eh?