Can't make the misses orgasm as much as I used to.

One crazy thought I thought about: stretching her vagina out to the point where she doesn't feel it as much. LOL is this possible? I was her first. So therefore she was tight when we first started going at it. Now its very easy to get it in.

What do you guys think?

Mind you, this isn't a huge problem in which im desperately looking for help with. Just thought it would be an interesting post. Maybe some of you guys are in the same position

Ive been foreplaying her for agges recently. With only little success. Motherfucker. lol. We guys are so much more easy to please.
I even bat a couple of hours before seeing her to last longer. I last like less than 1hr?
Im not a sex god obviously but im sure theres no problem with that.
I play on her emotional side when doing the business etc etc

I always finger her for like 10mins before we do it? good bad?

tips tips tips?

Also please dont tell me you go for 10hrs at a time making her cum 16+times and such. I always believe it, and feel like i need to step my game up lmao.

thanks!

You are demonstrating some incongruencies which probably also come across during sex.

You start out saying it's not a big problem, but then you describe all the things you've tried, are eager to see tips, and then warn us not to tell you about our conquests (or you'll feel bad).

Also it's not the length of time you last, it's what you do with it! I'm pretty fit, and I've learned that if I'm doing a crap job, I'll physically out last her to the point where she's sore. If a girl complains she's sore and wants to stop - it means you were crap. The idea is to make her cum so many times that she's physically exhausted well before she reaches the point where she's getting friction burns.

Sex begins when you first start communicating with her - that could be on chat or text messaging even. You have to set the frame right. Quite possibly what you've ended up doing is setting the frame that sex is something you're going to be after every night, hopefully she's not too tired, then you're going to spend ages trying to get her off, which won't work well because the pressure is all on her and you're not getting off all the while. When I stimulate a girl, I either obviously enjoy it (with sounds or body language) or start masturbating myself as well, another way of showing I'm enjoying what's going on.

Ideally you want to have a fun time during the day, during which you cause attraction for her. If she's not gagging for sex by the time you both get into bed, it's most likely going to be crap.

It should be a fun thing, not a chore. I'd say biggest tip for you right now is stop focusing on her enjoyment so much and just focus on your own. Don't you remember how erotic it is to watch your partner getting aroused? Women are reactive, it's a herd animal thing, they are submissive and we are proactive. If you give off awkward vibes, she will feel awkward. If you are enjoying yourself, she will be more likely to enjoy it. And remember - girls don't have to orgasm to enjoy sex, so you can at least work with that as a base. As long as it's a fun enjoyable experience, you have to start with that at least.

Yeah i guess this is true. However, its not a 'problem' as such. I just really feel as if im missing out on something. I feel as if i have the capability to do so much more for her. I just need to learn how.
And of course, if i can better myself and make my misses feel better in the process, then why not

You don't have to defend yourself about it being a problem - in fact the sooner you admit to yourself that it is a big deal to you, then you will be able to do something about it. To not put so much focus and worry on how she feels, and just make it a fun occasion.

I have a best example of this is a moment of clairty I had years ago, where I first appreciated how the feelings are more important than the actions. I had a partner for a few years, and thing were getting a bit stale every now and again. I got turned down for sex in the morning, (before I got into this PUA stuff), and suddenly I just got fed up with how things were same old, and being AFC by being turned down, and some random physical sexual act came into my head and I wanted to act it out. I managed to call her back while she was in the middle of getting ready for work, just to get her to do something that didn't involve much more than her sitting on my lap (with her nightie still on) and skipping the details, I told her I just wanted to see how quickly I could cum. It worked and she was saying "oh my god..." etc. because I made a mess, and although she never got touched pretty much, she said it was really fun, and even back to the point where she heard me call her into the room, she "knew" what it might be about from the tone of my voice.

So basically the difference there is "I just wanted to have fun", where as you are going into the bed "trying to make her orgasm", that's the mood you're setting up.

Dont put pressure on the girl , try to do things naturaly, i had the same problem did alot of investigations on sex mechanics and stuf but came the conclusion that was the problem was putting pressure i wanted to see her orgasm. So nvermind just have fun do things naturaly and will happen. Just let go

Maybe try out anal play. Some girls love it...and some are disgusted by it. If she's down for it then you should definitely try it out!

I am not MPUA but I know the answer to this one. Generally in a monogamous relationship a womans sex drive goes down after some time. Toys help but the mind is where you are going to have to try and reach. That tantra massage and gspot stimulation stuff works because it gets the girls to relax and I have found that if a girl relaxes she can and generally starts to focus on having powerful orgasms. Guided relaxation works too.

Start out by going down on her and try to get a clitoral orgasm.

Then insert your index or middle finger, or both, palm upwards a few inches inside her with her on her back, and massage the upper wall of her vagina in a "come hither" motion, gently at first with a rate of about a second per stroke. You should feel pressure build up as blood flows to the area, and you can apply more pressure to the area and speed up a little gradually. You can also use your thumb or tongue to massage her clit simultaneously. She should be able to have a vaginal g-spot orgasm with this method.

To hit the g-spot better during sex, the normal missionary, but with a pillow under her ass, is a good one. Also her on top but leaning backwards also hits it well too, as well as doggy with you from a slightly raised position hitting more downwards.

You can do a similar come hither motion with the palm downwards facing and slightly further inside, rubbing the wall that divides the anus and the vagina. If you can get her to come from this, then anal sex will make her come too because it's hitting the same spot from the other side. Remember to use plenty of lube!

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Maybe try out anal play. Some girls love it...and some are disgusted by it. If she's down for it then you should definitely try it out!