the situation:

I want my ex GF back. why? because she's the best girl i've ever met in my life. she has a strong personality. and all the personality treats i want in a woman.

het personality treats.

- she's verry mature for her age. but when she is happy ore want's attention she act's like a happy liddle kid in this playfull way. (really adorable:d)
- she's super good with children. and is going to become a really good mother in my eyes. ( she babysitted at 2 kids since they were born. and she does a really good job.)
-she's stubern. verry stubern. and she hates the idea of being wrong.
-she displayes a more than average confidence but she is actually quite shy.
-when she has problems with something she holds her feeling back and sometimes this becomes a little to much for her. the she cries ( girls:d)
-she can't handle to much bad tension. but acts really tuff when needed.
-when your angry at her she blows up in your face or starts crying. she'll try to win the discussions at al cost.

- when she wants something, she will take it.
- she's a really hard worker.
- she's intelligent like hell. (she's still in school and has verry good grades.)
- she's a classy girl. a little conservative. but has a modern vieuw of life. she just likes traditions and stuff.
-she's verry trustworthy and unlikely 2 cheat on her BF. ( you'll have to use the big guns to get this girl:d)
-she doesn't trust anybody verry soon and easy. but when she does. you can tell her anything and she will tell you anything.
-she"s 21 and she go's to university.
-she's a HB 7-9. depends on your taste:d
-she's the perfect mix between a carreerwoman and a mother and housewife.
-she loved me aloth, i never felt so much love radiating from 1 person towards me.
-she doesn't come out verry often. and doesn't like to party.

back 2 the situation.

now 6 months ago (middle of march), i dumped her ( yeah i know stupid me:d). here's the reason why!
Our relationship wasn't going verry well the last 6 months we were together.
because i was never there. i went out aloth, having fun with friends. being a good wingman for friends, working on my game, going out, ...

( i'm learning about pua for a year now. i never cheated on my GF. i only used it 2 create a bigger social circle. and to become a better person for myself. to create oppertunities for myself.)

so when i dumped my GF after this fight we had. i started doing the real pua thing.
i started to learn closing a girl and second day's and all this stuff i never did before.
however it isn't the same. i don't love these girls i close. which fucks everything up for me. so i did some soulsearching about what i wanted in a woman. and i must say my ex comes damn close 2 perfect. I really treated her badly. even after the break up. she wanted me back for about 4 months. but now 1 month later she doesn't want me back anymore. she said she's over me and we will never be together anymore.

I made the big mistake 2 act needy. I guess for the last 3 weeks now. telling her i want her back. and being total AFC. i guess i hoped to trigger these emotions inside her she had for me. well that was some wrong thinking:d
so i stopped doing this. ( at last some good thinking of me:d)

there is a loth of competition out there who is after her.
so i need some advice on amoging asswell, and on staying the alpha dogg into her eyes. there's this natural who's really cocky funny, he's rich and has his life togheter. and there is this advanture guy. great body and funny. those 2 are my biggest fear. this moment i can outgame the others but not those 2.

i have analysed why my ex fell for me in the first place. i was confedent, had aloth of social proof, i was leadingthis group at my local youthcentrum. so i was the alpha man. i'm well groomed. and wasn't needy ass well. ( i however didn't know pua in that time) she fell for this. i was her first BF and she was still a virgin. i believe this could give a heads up.

i don't really know what 2 do now. how do i get her back?

i've found 2 solutions. ==> please feedback ;)

1: working aloth on my inner game and hoping she falls back in love with me. in this case what should i improve on myself and how do i improve it?

2: learn nlp and use it on her.



-if you have another theorie i can use. please tell me.
-if you can help me to improve my inner game. please tell me.
-i'm also looking for great routines, games, test's, stories,...
we had a relationship for about 2 years. so we already kow aloth about each other. so it has to be fresh stuff.

another problem i'm facing.
we have a loth of trouble talking 2 echt other because the hard break up. so this has 2 change ass well. and i figure that almost every question that makes sense can easely be mistaken as needyness :s . it sucks but everything i ask her refers to out past relation. and automaticaly brings up the pain i caused her.
wich isn't a good stimulator for attraction i believe.

how can i handle this problem?
because before i can make her feel attracted to me, i'll have 2 be able to talk to her in a normal way. what would you guys do?


tnx, for reading and helping me out.