Hey all, i'll start of with some background on this ..

Last night, i called my father.

I've never ever known my father, the last time i met him, he raped me mentally.. In other words, he fucked me up mentally. That was 4 years ago, when i was 13. After that i went back home and talked to my grandmother, she told me the story about my mother and him, and ever since i've hated him.

But even though i hate him, i need a closure when it comes to him, i can't keep on hating him, it's simply something i have to put behind me. So last night i called him, and told him "Hello, i'd like to meet you" He replied "You're calling on a bad moment, in fact, it's always a bad moment to call" and hung up on me, in other words; last night i lost all hope of ever having any closure when it comes to him, and i'll deal with that in time.

I needed support, i was threwn totally out of balance, so i call my girlfriend, she's busy with a movie and can't talk, i call my friends, but none of 'em come over to my place to talk.

After an hour, my girl calls me up, tells me to come over to her place, i'm not really in a mood to talk about it.. So it ends up with us having sex, and after that, i want to talk.. She falls a sleep on me, yeah.. It was late.. But that's just too much.

What the hell is this? Is it just me overeacting? After that, she haven't even asked me if i needed to talk!

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Thanks alot for the reply, it's really appreciated

Well, good question.. As far as i can tell it's going quite smooth. She does respect me, and knows where the line is drawn, she never ever disrespects that line. However, - I've never gone through tough times like that with her, she's gone through tough times, where i have been the supporting one. But i'd say it's only minor to the problem i have at the moment.. One thought that pops up in my head is that it might be too much for her.. She's never experienced anything like that, and she might be unsure about how to handle it, maybe that's why she's freezing out on it?

- Koff

No you're not overreacting. But by the world it will be perceived as an overreaction.
First off I understand your problem and what you must have gone through. Life can be traumatizing sometimes. And when we're already under lots of pressure, even those things which might not affect us under general circumstances end up affecting us adversely. You feel as though the world is falling upon your shoulders and you can't do much about it. Seeing it from your point of view, your reaction is totally understandable. Seeing it from the world's point of view, it has no knowledge of the tiny bits and pieces of your life's problems. It does not know what all you've already been through and hence your reaction (which will be quite aggressive seeing as how you've already gone through a lot) will be perceived as an overreaction. I hope you're with me here.

What should you do?
The ideal thing to do would be to let time calm you down and then to discuss your problems with whoever you feel you're close to. I don't feel your girlfriend is at fault unless she knew of your problems and yet went for the movie and then fell asleep. If you whine and cringe here, blame people and take your frustration out on them, it might be justified if they are at fault but it will not be the best action to take. An alpha-male is a mentally strong and self-dependent entity. Good Luck.

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