Hi all. F-Closed a HB7 last night that I went to high school with way back when. Nice girl and everything but not really "relationship," material. I am afraid, however that she might fall for me, which would be a bad thing. I dont want to hurt anyone's feelings but at the same time I dont really want a relationship. Naturally, this is a situation that I am sure some other PUAs have been in so any advice would be much appreciated. Anyone have any tips on putting the breaks on a relationship before it starts? Is there any good material out there for this kind of thing? Thanks.

You could always try being honest and upfront with her about your intentions. Preferably you would have done this BEFORE sleeping with her, since now it looks like you led her on in an attempt to get sex. But it's never too late to start being honest, so I still recommend it.

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Good input. I dont think that I led her on in the sense that you are implying. I didn't gush over how special she was or freeze her out to overcome LMR. When we got back to her place she invited me in, led me to the bedroom within 5 minutes and was all too happy to usher her dog out the door and start undressing me. Maybe I should have said "Hey wait...lets make sure we are on the same page about what this means..." Would have kind of killed the mood though.

I do agree that a frank conversation is in order, however. Something to the effect of the above and I am happy to keep seeing her and make her part of my life, I just dont want her to start hearing bells, ya know.

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Next time it happens, leave some money on her dresser with a letter thanking her for her service. I think she'll get the message straight away.

Yeah...that would be pretty direct.

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Update:

Called her a few minutes ago and told her that I wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. She was totally cool about it and said that she has been dating for awhile now and knows how things go. I told her that I wanted to make sure that our expectations were realistic and that I wasn't necessarily looking for a relationship. She told me that it would be unfair of HER to expect that at this point and not to worry.

Much ado about nothing.

Props to 870 for reminding me to man up and do the right thing. Thanks man.