I've been hesitating whether to post this topic or not, because I believed that I could solve this problem on my own, but too much time elapsed and I'm still not feeling okay...

So... where can I start? I'll give an overview of my situation:

I do daygame. I got out every day and I cruise the streets looking for girls to open. I'd go out at 6pm and be home at 9pm.

Currently as I'm writing this, the time is 8:46 pm, which means I'm back home from sarging.

I've lost motivation. I've lost enthusiasm. For the last week, each time I went out, I'd feel really down, I'd barely talk to anyone and the most ridiculous thing is that I feel almost no approach anxiety.

I know perfectly well what's going on... I know the consequences of inaction, I know that I will regret not approaching, I know this is irrational, and still at the last moment, I don't open the set I decided to open seconds ago...

My energy is really low... I tried pumping my state up to feel happy for at least 1 minute, just 1 minute and I can't do it. I feel miserable...

3 hours walking around like a solo cholo - 3-4 approaches at best... That's a real good job... *sarcasm*

When I see a set, that is high energy, having fun I myself feel like a lowlife in comparison...

What I did today? Almost nothing. I regretted not opening sets when I had the chance, I couldn't pump my state up, altough I knew exactly what to say in those situations I still didn't do it, despite the fact that I've done that very same thing successfully in the past...

At the verge of quitting and submitting to depression, I said to myself "Before you go home, do just 1 approach! just 1 approach! It doesn't matter how they will respond, just do 1 approach! 1 approach! Do it! Just 1 approach! Use any remaining energy you have for just 1 last approach!"

Over the course of 3 minutes I repeated this mentally and I forced myself to approach a set of 2 average looking girls. As I went into my opener:

"Hi, I just want to ask something..."

They noticed me, made awkward faces and ignored me and I said:

"Oh common!" while waving my arms around desperately...

I don't blame them. My vibe must have been so bad, that it managed to repulse them.

It goes without saying that I rushed home with my tail between my legs and now I'm here, wondering what should I do next...

All this doesn't make sense to me. Why? Because in the past I did a lot more approaches and a lot of daring stuff that required more or less confidence. And I did get away with it. I got some rejections back then, but they couldn't scratch my state and at the end of the day I did feel happy... That motivation, the excitement, the enthusiasm... I feel as if those things are no longer with me. As if I've lost my purpose and I don't know why I have to do it.

I don't know... I'm confused. I don't want to bother you guys with my shit, you have better things to do... I decided to post a topic as a last resort, cause clearly I don't know what to do...


Thanks in advance.

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I dont know how to help you,but i read everything.
All i can say,is that i feel the same way you do,depressed,with no energy,with no perspective,no will.
My current state is TOTALLY depressed,i feel im in a no-way out place,that theres so salvation for my situation. I have a fucking huge AA to do anything,it sucks,i hate my looks,i hate myself.
And,i do want to go out,but the clubs are fiiled up of beautiful,hot,rich people,seriously,theres NO WAY to me to compete with them,and that makes me more and more down.

Sorry for not helping,but we share some feelings 8)

I've been in your position, I know how it feels. You don't want to hear my sob story so I'll tell you what's worked for me so far. Take note I'm not some MPUA yet, I still havent even had my first kiss, gf, or fuck. What I have done is create an inner balance that has brought me much needed peace.

What's this secret??

Figure out what it is you want out of life.

"haha thats bullshit brandon what the fuck kind of shitty advice are you trying to bring to the table??"

Fine. Don't listen. But you'll be in the same position you're in two years from now. 5 years from now? Yep. 10 years?? Haha. Still that sad sack of shit spending 3 hours a day roaming the streets trying to fix his girl problems by trying to approach random strangers and ask them a bunch of meaningless fucking questions.

Don't get me wrong; I think cold approaching random people is a great way to beat AA and work on your social skills. It's just certain people are at different points in their lives and if you're not at that point it'll mean fuck all.

I don't know much about your life, but I know when I was doing this shit I was nothing. I had no desires, no passions, no hobbies, nothing. I decided that I wasn't making much progress at all and was more than anything wasting gas money and my time. So I took a break from the game and figured out what it was that I wanted to be.

I took a pen and a notebook and wrote down EVERYTHING.

TAKE ACTION! START TODAY! THE FIRST STEP IS THE HARDEST!

Write down EVERYTHING EVERYTHING EVERYTHING! Chances are you're going to forget most of the things anyways so this is a great way to go back and remember. Write down possible hobbies to explore, cool things you want to do[like expereince skydiving, go hike every mountain in the world, survive 10 days in antarctica anything you think is cool], places you want to visit, sexual experiences you want to experience[fuck on the beach, have a 3 some, get head while eating some bitch out and having a third rim you while you cut her index finger off with some scissors whatever the fuck you want to do someday], write everything down.

Once you're done with that[it should take awhile], the only thing is to go out and do it.

NOTE: this MAY or MAY NOT help you become socially normal if you arent. In the end I credit most of my social improvement to my job. I got a job that has so many people, hot chicks ugly chicks cool guys weirdos that nobody likes, old people middle aged people young people and this helped me ALOT. However, this advice will help YOU establish an IDENTITY and will give you a sense of accomplishment and improvement and many times thats all people need. It may also greatly help in conversation[if you get stuck on what to say you can always talk about your cool interesting life and unique hobbies if you have any]

Also, what I did at first to hone my personality, because I didn't know how to talk to people AT ALL..

I believe this is a VERY STRONG tactic. Use it or don't, whatever.

I'm going to keep it short and simple since I'm tired of writing so if you want me to elaborate post here or if you want me to do it by PM just message me.

I was a fucking mess. Didn't know what the hell I was doing when talking to people. Very socially awkward. Wasn't funny at all, though sometimes I thought I was[yes, only I].

I watched a bunch of movies, TV shows, etc and wrote down all the lines I liked. People that said what I wanted to say. People here often talk about emulating guys like James Bond. Well you can't be James Bond, you can only be yourself. Take what you like out of James Bond, and whoever else and integrate it into your game. That's how you improve.

So I wrote down every line, then I'd go practice online in the safety of my home. I did this every day and night for months and then it came to the point where I would be thinking of good lines or comebacks in real life I'd just be afraid to say them. Now I'm alot braver and say alot more shit although I still get this way with urning a convo sexual with a girl. Hope it helps somebody.

Take note, even if you master the tactic of conversation you still need to focus on the other things in real life, like kino body language voice eye contact etc etc but this is a great step in the right direction

@B-randon: Thanks man.

I carefully read your post several times and I took it into consideration.

I really need to take a detour and focus on the other things that make me happy in life, as it clearly seems that I can't just force forward my pick up skills.

I have a few things in mind I want to do...

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Awesome! Let me know what happens alright?

I know alot of people who suck come on these seduction sites with the intent of learning this stuff quickly. If they aren't good in a few months they give up altogether.

I'm dedicated to taking the long road and am confident it will pay off in the end. Because guys like you and me struggle so much at the start, I strongly feel that in the end we're going to appreciate it more because we know the lows so well. I remember reading a post on here last night where the guy went to therapy because he didn't enjoy fucking too much women.

It's been several years since I stopped doing PU[not that it'll take you this long dont even focus on how long its going to take you just focus on what's right in front of you], but I know I'm going to eventually get back into it and when I do I'm not going to accomplish nothing like when I first started. I might get back in pretty soon as I start college next week. We'll see what happens.

Oh yeah another thing I wrote down was all of the things that I wanted to buy, like specific clothes certain DVDs etc.

You said a thing right.
The only reason i didnt killed myself yet,is that i do have a little hope that things are gonna get better,even that i dont really believe it,and its harder and harder each day that passes by.
Im also in college next year,i CAN NOT be a loser there,its unacceptable.

I sent you an MP Brandon.

Ok one last thing I have to say. It's all about MINDSET.

You can be a MPUA but if you're not happy you're not happy. If you're trying to learn something new but you don't have the motivation you're not going to get very far. That's one of the reasons I got so much better because I found a real reason to work on myself.

Over the last few years I've become a major NFL and MMA follower. I've become one of the biggest MMA fans after only about a year in. I've been a NFL fan for about 4 years now but I know more about it than anyone I know in real life because I developed a serious passion for it and spent tons of time watching it, looking up different stats etc. About a year and a half ago I taught myself how to spin a basketball and a few dribbling tricks. I've been sporadically teaching myself portuguese but have dropped off that for a few months, and I plan on learning other languages throughout my life. I also plan on learning and becoming proficient in several different types of dance. Maybe even down the road I want to learn how to surf and learn a musical instrument.

All of this may seem overwhelming to somebody else but I realize that this is my plan and mine alone. I view my knowledge of NFL and MMA as a serious accomplishment, and when I master the language of Portuguese, when I become a good dancer and whenever I learn something else new I view it as a major achievement. This is one of the great building blocks you should rely on. Nobody can take away your skills and knowledge, but they can take your car or burn your house down, which is why you shouldn't focus so much on material goods like your rock collection or your old money collection as something that helps create your identity. You SHOULD be proud of them, but realize you can also lose them so dont rely on them to help boost your confidence because one day they may not be there.

K...I know everyone is going hate me, however ain't that a tad lame? Don't you got better things to do for 3 hrs than "sarge"?



What are the consquences of inaction? What says your going regret not talking to people? Reality check...Be social when you want to, be chill when you want to, stop forcing it. Further whats driving you to do this? Is it because you think its a "skillset" that if you don't use it its going regress? Cause if thats the logic...your already playing a losing game- ultimately even if you don't do anything for months- you are fine- its a constant of being OK with yourself.

Hmm...thats abit sad/lame put bluntly. Your still resisting yourself- accept it, stop fighting it.
Again...it comes to don't you got better things to do, further...so people are having fun, its because they actaully are spending time with ppl they like- you on the other hand are on the "prowl", so of course if you can't match or whatever- your going feel like a lowlife cause again, you got nothing happening life wise.
Approach, Approach, Approach! Seriously...stop being a social robot, your a person- who bluntly has nothing happening in his life, so you have to put preconceived value on approaching ppl and talking to them. You feel depressed or crappy because your not matching THIER standards in your view, and your standards also- cause your probaly wanting to be better than other ppl or you think its normal to be like this. Its not...
Lost your purpose? You never had one to begin with...Talking to people & "sarging" its the farthest thing from a purpose. Its floating around avoiding it and thinking your getting somewhere externally- being a distraction in reality. You want to stop getting depressed, know why you lost motivation, etc. GET YOUR CRAP TOGETHER & spend some time with yourself, get a life...Join clubs, go to places you like, talk to people there if you like to (not because you HAVE to), do things that make you happy that don't include people. Find your purpose of why you live etc.

Thats the simple summary of everything.