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In all honesty, I think you are overlooking an opportunity here.
You need to lead - not depend on the woman to tell you she wants you. She indicated that she was getting off work - you ordered take out. You could have turned that into an insta-date or an opportunity...
A great response. Thank you for your insights. My circumstances are slightly different, in that I'm married, and seeing another married for affair. I'm new to this, but think things have to be done very subtly in a process of mutual escalation... I'm looking to leverage PUA as I can, but will have to modify standard practice.
I know where you are coming from - I am also married and in my 40's.
There are several subtle, but concrete ways that you can lead a woman (married, boyfriend, or otherwise) as part of the pick-up process.
I understand that you don't want the entire world knowing your business - but the reality remains that picking up women is the same with all.
You need to build attraction.
You need to lead.
You need to escalate.
You need to close.
An instadate doesn't need to be acknowledged as a "date" - you could simply say - "you're going off-shift? I'm getting this as takeout. I've got a question for you let me walk you to your car ..." with this simple interaction you've:
1) isolated her from her co-workers, so you can press deeper,
2) created compliance - you're walking her to her car - dominant behavior
3) created a situation where you can kino, handshake, playful jab to shoulder, hand on her's as she opens the car door
4) hug for the "advice' she's given you
The possibilities for kino in a public place are virtually endless without SPAM to others what you are truely after. Is she going to blow you right there? Unlikely, but it gives you the opportunity to set up a Day 2 outside of her work environment - which allows you to have the logistics planned out to close.
The possibilities here are quite extensive. I gave a HB neighbor who came over last week a huge hug right in front of my wife. Am I trying to game my neighbor? Yes - a slow game - because for me she is definately a 9 and because we are neighbors things need to be discreet. So 45 minutes later when she was leaving to go home and my wife was 20 feet or so away, she came over to me explicitly, pulled me by the arm and said that we HAVE to get together without the kids, her, her husband, my wife and I. Am I going to accept that offer? You bet I am. Am I going to game her? You bet I am. In front of her husband my wife? Discreetly, but you bet I am.
If you want to be with that waitress (and I am sure that you do). It's okay to play a long game - but ...
You have to play the game and make sure that you escalate. Will some women blow you out?
Yes.
Will some give you LMR ("I'm married", "Your married", "We're married")?
Yes.
But if you know how to plow through this ("we're two adults, doing what two consenting adults that are attracted to each other do" ... freezeouts, etc.), this is not an obstacle once you've built that attraction.
I think what you went into the restaurant without, is a game plan on how to escalate and advance the attraction - that instead you went in hoping she would say "I want you" and do the hard work for you. Women need to be led to make that decision to sleep with you - few are going to take the lead themselves.
On another site FastSeduction you can look up LR's from Daigoro and Maj, both married PUAs who build excitement, tension and eventually lay married and single women. On this site, Clozer's LR's show that the game is the same.
As I said, I still think you have a shot here. Next time you're there, be prepared ... and have a plan to escalate. Looking forward to reading the LR ...
CHAT
