Hi, I'm not really a PUA, but have been pretty successful with women in my life and have been learning some tips and applying them to get better results, and create attraction faster and more effectively in women im interested in.

I met a girl on an internet dating site, and I really like this one. I was doing cocky funny to start with and she was enjoying talking to me, she thought i was really funny but she was shy about meeting someone in person and wouldn't meet me when I first asked her. I waited a couple of days and then started using a Shock and Awe approach I learn from Ciaran on puaratings - where you blame the girl for your uncontrollable desire for her because she is so ridiculously hot. She loved it... I laid it on real thick - said all kinds of things, about needing to take a cold shower, to put on tighter underpants because walking around with the erection was embarassing etc etc...

After quite a bit of this, and having really generated a lot of interest/attraction I toned back down to more serious and asked her some stuff about favourite colour, which I used to profile her using Vin Dicarlo's Pandora's Box (8 Profiles) - Worked out she is the Cinderella type. Took a bunch of stuff out of the description and described her. She loved it, said it was very accurate.

Asked her out and now she was really keen. Really looking forward to meeting me, thinking i'm really funny. Sent her an e-rose. She loved that. Did a bit more S&A uncontrollable desire for her stuff. She's still loving it. And them BOOM, overstepped the line. Asked her if it was innappropriate to tell her I'd fantasized about her. She was shocked alright - and felt uncomfortable. She said it made it hard to want to meet someone who said something like that.

Apologised for offending her and told her I'd meant to just indicate how attracted i was too her. She said she liked my honesty but it made her feel a bit uncomfortable.

FUCK. Anyone got any ideas on how I can win her interest and her trust back? And then once I've done that... how to rebuild the attraction - I've tainted the whole undesirable attraction thing now, so fucking destroyed my own best tool.

I'm dating three other girls, and none of them I'm seriously interested in, but this one was real girlfriend material. Any advice GREATLY appreciated.

Brotherz... javascript:emoticon(':D') this might be a useful case lesson for some of you. I think I've started to make a recovery. I've got her talking to me again, and even laughing a bit (at least writing lol in the message). After I calmed down from the initial disappointment a few hours later I wrote:

subject: misunderstanding

Hey ***, about before, I was thinking that whole fantasy thing - might have made you feel pressured - like "What if I don't live up to the fantasy?" - But you don't need to worry - in my dream you were a dud... [disarming with humour]

no, seriously though, i think everything just got a bit blown out of proportion... I was fooling around with you, flirting... I mean I DO find you irresistably attractive, but I was exaggerating things for effect. I mean I DID go and do some manual labour (because i'd arranged to help a friend) but I didn't really have a cold shower or change into tighter underpants. And the fantasizing thing, I mean I imagined kissing you, kissing your neck... it's not so bad is it? I was just trying to wind you up. [damage control]

Let's get things back on track, and I'll promise not to be SO over the top

(No exaggeration in the romantic part though, the flowers, the colours, my feelings... that was all as is) [sweet talk - Cinderella types go for it - hey don't get me wrong here guys - I did mean all this stuff - I've got feelings for her]

reply:


Lol...really made me uncomfortable. Not used to being spoken like that about. We'll chat soon

Fucking great!!! Trust is being re-established. She's back in communication with me... and I've actually turned things around so that (as long as I'm gentle and ease back into it) I can go back to the expression of my overwhelming desire for her - which was a main attraction tool. It just has to be a bit more moderate now.

Let you know how it goes.

dude, i have the EXACT same problem (cept mine's from texting)
she was gettin to rly like me (she has a bf), and then i said smthin very similar.
She was like, ur msgs r gettin creepy.. and its been complete down hill from that

hopefully someone out there has some rly good advice on what to do
i posted this problem in the forums, titled "picking-up a girl wit a bf"

Yeah man - it WAS creepy. Kind of stalkerish... I realised this later but at the time i got carried away and went over the top.

But you read my second post? It worked... we've got rapport again now, and emphasizing comfort building. Anything in there that you can apply?

In any case, better to go for single girls i reckon...