Hi everybody,

I'm having trouble in clubs,

I like clubs and i go to them 2 or 3 times a week. I'm enjoying myself and that´s great, because I used to stand in the corner with my beer and my friends, but since 2 years i am dancing and everything, just enjoying myself without thinking what other people might or might not think of me

But i have some trouble when it comes to woman, i find them standing near me. I see them looking over there shoulders and i see them turning there bodies towards me. But rarely make a move and then 10 minutes later there gone because i was to chicken to do something.

Sometimes it happens that they start dancing with me and then everything goes well but somehow im still afraid of making the first move on the dance floor, and I know that nothing bad can happen especially because they where asking for it with there looks and body languages in the first place.

Maybe someone has some tips what i can do or say? (although the music is quite load most of the times)

And English isn't my home language so forgive me for any grammar mistakes.

have you been reading any books or materials about the game?
if not, then you should read some stuff. you will find in "the game" some great openers. me personaly, i love picking up women in clubs but not while dancing.
as you said, the music is loud so there isnt so much talking. you can dance near her and get involve in the group she's at, be infront her friends with your back to her.

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Personally, im a big club person. I go to two a week usually and i find its the best place to pick up.

If the girl is nearby then spring up a conversation with a style opener that you'll find in the game, or just come up with something relevant. I find telling a girl her drink looks like toxic/ fuel etc with a smile gets them into either talking to you or giving you a bit of their drink. From there on you're in the set. Before she gets bored you need to either leave the set or lead the set (dancefloor maybe? drink?)

If your dancing with them and you've given each other a smile or a wink or something i like to dance shoulder-to-shoulder facing the other way (so we look like we're standing side-to-side in a line-up but facing opposite directions) and gently bump into her. She'll bump back. Fact. Then take one or both of her hands and keep dancing, spin her (hand over her head and make her twirl) now and again and eventually have your arms around her waist. If this happens and she reciprocates (her arms are wrapped around your waist - double points for around your neck) then k-close.

Dance some more, get her name, maybe her number, then tell her you shuold both get to your mates but you'll find her later "if she's lucky". Your choice to do that or not, but it doesnt matter, text/ call her a couple days later. I like the "Remember me? Have a good night on [insert day] night?".


Oh and my personal mantra is Always Wear a Smile. Especially when dancing, even if your bad your a) having fun and b) passing it off as being aware your bad but still up to have fun at your own expense.

Lemme know how it goes dude!




GrifterUK

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- You make your own luck

is bringing girls with u after u'll fell ther vibe it a lot more easy

I love going out with friends and especially when it come down to clubs. I have no problem making out with more than 1 girl and number closing every time I go to a club (And I'm picky).

Here's some advices:

1- Don't club alone, and enjoy yourself! If not, you'll be the creepy guy that everyone is scared of.

2- DRINK, if your main problem is to do the 1st move, go get a beer or two and there won't be any problem! You won't even know how it happened because it was so smooth.

Personally, I smile a lot and try to get eye-contact with the girl. With experience, I've learned that it's pretty much always the same thing. First you spot the girl and she spot you, then you can tease her with a nice smile or wtv! If she's interested you'll be aware of it. (Trust me, they can be such bitches, sometimes)

Then You can start grinding her, don't be afraid to touch her where you wants She'll like it. After a few minutes, when she's comfortable with you, she will often grab your hands. Which obviously mean she wants to face you. So just flip her. After a while you'll start making out with her. If she's really into you, it can end up in the bathroom

Peace