Generally speaking, I don't even have to try to attract women even hot women and I'm currently confined to a wheelchair but (it's temporary and I'm making great progress there) when I see or meet a female that gives me a feeling like "this could be about something more than a fuck, I guarantee I won't get her. I have a zillion x's better shot with a 10 I just wanna bang than a 7 I genuinely like. It has to be something I'm doing without knowing it because my entire life it's been that way; I've had plenty of hot women but have never gotten a woman I had actual feelings for even if she was less attractive than girls I did get. I don't think my game changes in those situations but as hard as I try to ignore it, I feel the pressure of not wanting to screw it up with them. When the laughing or talking stops I panic trying to keep it going n interesting but get so stressed I can't think. I believe that is my sticking point; in dealing with these women I feel there is potential for a ltr, I get stressed and try too hard. It ONLY happens with girls I actually like so I don't see a way to practice that; it pops up out of nowhere. I've honestly never had a ltr but I'd love to experience 1. Any thoughts? This has been a life long problem I would love to be able to fix. thanks

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

To me, it sounds like a case of oneitis where you end up being less successful with the women that you care about, almost certainly because you caring about them changes your game in a way that makes you less attractive to them.

I think a further problem is that this has now become psycho-somatic where the fact that you think it’s going to happen means it will happen.

I think you need to go and have a good look at your inner game. You need to assess your strengths and weaknesses and reaffirm your concept of self. It sounds like you lose your frame when encountering girls you should realise that you don’t need to change anything or waver once you realise you start the like to the girl. If girls are attracted to you, then there were attracted to the person they met before he started going gooey once he realised he liked them, so don’t change your personality.

I hope that helps, but overall it seems strange that you say you attract 10s despite your wheelchair but haven’t managed to find a girl you like. If you’re young, it might just be that you’re unlikely so far. I think there's more to your story that you haven't told

I wasn't in a wc most of my life. I didn't say I'm out here pulling dimes, I said I'd have a better shot with a 10, 11 if it was just physical than I would with a 7 I guess u could say I had a form of oneitis for. I do in fact though attract a lot of girls, not necessarily good ones but females nevertheless

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson