“Naturals” and other men who are usually successful with ladies that aren’t in the community know the secret to attracting women. Some of them know this consciously and others don’t. However they all use this secret in order to achieve success with women.

The secret to attracting women is to let the women choose you.

Most guys who are unsuccessful with women waste their time on women who do not want them. A woman will judge whether or not she wants to meet you, much less sleep with you within a few seconds to few minutes of seeing you.

Does this mean cold approaching women doesn’t work? Of course not! After all, skilled PUAs can cold approach a woman sending him no signals, but with tight game can manage to close her.

However this type of approach usually never develops into healthy and quality relationships. Here’s why...

When a man notices a woman he is thinking nowhere past the bedroom. He notices everything physically attracted to her and is only thinking about sex.

When a woman notices a man she is interested in, she starts looking at how he holds himself, how good of a father figure he might be, if he would ever cheat on her, if he’s got a “player” vibe to him, if he seems submissive through his body language, if she could introduce him to her parents eventually etc...... basically a woman is thinking beyond the bedroom.

Who should make the choice for a healthy relationship?

Now this of course doesn’t apply to one night stands. Some women may be looking for one night stands, if that is the case, all the man has to do is look good and turn her on. Otherwise, it’s not so simple.

A skilled PUA with tight game can cold approach and have sex with many women. How many of these women turn into long term relationships?

Of course, many men aren’t looking for relationships, they just want sex. If that is the case, then PUA material could definitely achieve that (good finances and body would help too). However, I believe many men sincerely want a long term relationship, even to find “the one”. If that is the case, my opinion is that men should stop cold approaching any woman, and only approach women giving him initial signals.

This may sound basic, but it’s amazing how many guys approach women who clearly through her body language does not want to be approached. When they fail, they think it’s because of their game and how they messed up a certain aspect of it. This is not always the case.

Maybe she’s on her period and isn’t feeling well, maybe she just got over a divorce, maybe she is a lesbian, it could be so many things that I don’t think men take into account.

I’ve now devoted my entire “game” specifically to women who give me strong signals from the start.

Why do I do this? To save me a lot of time, money and heartache.

If there are no women who give me these signals after awhile, I know I need to develop my inner game or outer attractiveness and lifestyle. Doing this would improve my chances of receiving signals from women to be approached.

By doing this, I’ve felt a big release on not having to game or memorize so much routines etc...in order to get a girl. I also noticed that if I only stick with women who give me IOI’s to approach her, she often accepts me for who I am and don’t even have to game her. Why? Because she choose me! She selected me.

Use proximity, eye contact, body language or anything you need to in order to screen which women if any would like to be approached by you. I believe your game will become almost effortless because she will be attracted to the real you when you aren’t using routines and other PUA material.

I believe this is truly the way to long term relationships for any guy who is interested in developing them.

good post.. I must say I agree.

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Doesn’t it get boring, only approaching girls who give you ioi's initially.. i find the girls who don’t give me ioi's initially more of a challenge, like some girl the other day, said it was nothing personal but she preferred guys who were older than her had enough of guys younger than her (her being 25), well i am younger than her, but from getting an initial age shit test, i got her telling me about things that she has done blah blah then closed.... it was fun because it wasn’t me running the same game on some girl who was lapping it up from the off, and i showed her i can handle her shit tests.

Obviously girls who give you ioi's initially are far easier... but girls who don’t can be fun to and they will likely give ioi's once you talked to them a bit...

Are you seriously saying you wouldn’t approach a HB10 just because she didn’t give you an ioi initially ? if so you are crazy my friend

Jitaz is right. Cold Approaches are what makes a man have game. I want everything, not just the girls who come on to me.

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"To know what people really think, pay regard to what they do, rather than what they say. "
René Descartes

They won't know if you are good LTR material until you meet them,so in theory it doesn't matter who approaches who,....however what happens if they're too shy to approach? What happens if they haven't seen you? By approaching when others don't you eliminating the competition who are to scared to approach and you're exhibiting a very attractive trait...........confidence.It is a mans onus to approach hot or cold,it's what separates us from AFC's.

See I was thinking, when a girl initially sends you IoIs without meeting you, they probably aren't thinking past the bedroom either...

i have a serious issue with this concept!
i cannot in my entire adult life remember a time when a women gave me an IOI.i am average looking so there will always be better looking males than myself who she will give that initial IOI to. i mean i have not spoken to her yet so looks are the ONLY thing she can judge me on. This game or thinking can only be successful for attractive looking males im sorry

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Its time for a change....a huge Mother@#$@# change!

This is a beta male attitude.

Matt 2.0.. if that is your real name which I doubt. You may speak of your past failures with women.. and condemn inner gaming if you wish.. but how dare you do so whilst reflecting the image of a beta male. I SHALL SLICE YOU NEIGH TO CHOP!!

AFCCoffee

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"At the end of the day these are women's lives we're dealing with, not mere entertainment."

"We are what we repeatedly do. excellence therefore is a habit and not an act."

All PUA's will agree with what you state! For naturals the whole let the female pick my work.

For the rest of us we have to attempt to manipulate the process by augmenting our qualities.

Thats PUA.

Haha...but come on.SERIOUSLY now. what kind of an IOI would a HB give an average looking dude before any words have come out of his mouth? That is why i made my point.Of course a women can spot confidence and attitude from across the room...but erm what if Brad Pitt standing next to me seems to have that aswell.its a no brainer for me . Il stick to my game

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Its time for a change....a huge Mother@#$@# change!

The only advantage to this post is that your sucess rate will be a lot higher.

Pickup Truck

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"If it can be dreamed, it can be done"

i agree womens often dont know what do they really want only what they think they want

I get where your coming from with this, and I think it's true that most relationships that last and are healthy are ones borne of mutual early attraction.

On the other hand, this disqualifies a potentially large fraction of the women out there from your set of options. One of the most positive things about being a PUA (in terms of finding a relationship) is getting to experience many different women, so that you can actually figure out what it is that you want, which in turn helps you find a decent relationship or, at the least, boosts your inner-game by letting you exhibit the DHV of knowing exactly what it is your looking for in a girl.

When you only go for girls who are interested in you off the bat, you're missing out on that. When I was younger, I was kind of an 'alternative' kid in terms of how I dressed and the music I listened to, and generally only got approached by girls who were also into that stuff. It took me a while to realize that other women could find MY interests INTERESTING even if they didn't share them themselves until they met me. It never hurts to be the guy who has something new to offer.