Have you guys ever had girl who says the opposite of what they feel or think about you?

For instance, I had a girl say she "never really liked me" and "when i am going to move on?" when clearly she has feelings for me.

I know that chances are when a girl is really interested in you, they won't say things like that above, but you know every girl is different and have her own reasons and motive.

I'm just curious if any one had cases like this? and why would the girl behave that way?

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Are you sure she has feelings for you? What context did she say it in? Tone of voice etc?

I never had a case like this but I've seen it in a friend of mine and his girlfriend. She's a drama queen though. She keeps toying with him or at least trying to. He's just got the whole whatever attitude going and it's driving her nuts.
She wants him and she wants to leave him at the same time. Scary stuff man. I'd say get away from that girl. It's not healthy for you.

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Fox

Yes.

Over the phone . It's first time we ever spoke to each other again after a while of online conversation.

Not angry. Not aggressive.

Passive.

I never had a case like this but I've seen it in a friend of mine and his girlfriend. She's a drama queen though.


Why do girls do that anyway if they like you? Or do they not? Normally, I would think that if a girl likes you, they wouldn't risk losing you.

Why are girls like that? Insecurities?

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Girls don't normally do that. It could be that she had feelings for you and things have changed for her.
Some girls punish themselves because they're scared to be left alone until they're strong enough to do it on their own. So although they want to move on they pretend they still have feelings for the guy.
It's a sorta psychological thing. I recommend running away from her. And fast. She'll be okay. You'll be the one hurting later on.

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Fox

In simple words. The girl was simply playing with me. Ha, what a waste of my 8 months chasing her.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

If you wanna put it like that then yeah. It's kinda like she's playing with you but she doesn't know she is. Crazy psychological stuff man. Go lay a 10 you'll feel better

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Fox

"Long story short, I began a conversation one night, and somewhere either that night or the night after, things got sexual pretty quickly. She sent me a picture of her tits Sunday night, and several clips of her moaning, which I assumed to be a step forward to actually talking. That night I also hinted at us maybe speaking on the phone and she seemingly dodged it." - The Alien Elite 's post

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It is this kind of crap that really pisses me off. Why exactly do girls behave this way? To lead you on and then to say "No" . Seems to me like they are just playing you. Either this or they are just really immature. I personally hope the latter though.

I really need more perspectives on this behavior.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

From my own personal experience, which is confirmed by a lot of PUA writings and getting-back-your-ex books - a lot of girls still need the guy they broke up with or are going to break up with to be around to comfort them while they make the transition out of the relationship. So they simultaneously do things to let you know that it's not going to work out (thinking this will save your feelings) but will also do things to make sure you're around to make them feel better when they get scared or lonely. It sucks but such is life.

Well. My relationship with this girl is that it hasn't even started so I can't really classify her as an ex. But what you are really saying is that the girl is simply using me as a way of rebound? emotional comfort?

Everything is starting to make sense for me now....

If this is the case, time for me to come up with some new strategies.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

IMO, ditch her without even saying anything, sure easier said than done, but for your own benefit, you have to see this.

She can be using you on and off, giving mixed emotions until something she really wants comes along, or just likes playing around with your feelings, either could be the case.

You need reality to strike back at her, just say nothing to her and pretend she don't exist unless she contacts you after a while (that'll happen because she will miss your effort)

If a girl continually says she doesn't like you, it's usually true and not playing hard to get, and seeing the way you are with her, she knows you'll pursue, so again, look onwards and upwards.

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I think it's a way of her trying to protect herself because she could be falling for you but scared of the implications which relationships involve. She may want to be single so is trying to turn you off her.

Or she could just be playing games with you by thinking she is playing hard to get. Obviously she has gotten under your skin so her plan has kind of worked hasn't it?
I agree that the above could be a reason as well.
I agree with this 100% as well. I have been guilty of doing it myself. When me and my ex broke up after a long time, I wanted to be free but I wanted him there to be my best friend and saviour still. I was extremely young (he had been all I had known for my teenage life and start of adulthood) and didn't realise until a couple of years and many tears later that I didn't need him in my life to protect me.

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....Thought you might like a girl's opinion....

I just haven't read anything in either of your threads to suggest she's interested in you at all.

The only justification so far is "just this vibe I get" which is kind of creepy when you put it with all the times she's said "no".

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

True, but she also gave me IOI.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"