I am seeing my girlfriend of 11 months finally in a week. I go to boarding school in Florida and she lives in Florida when I live in New York over the summer. She has visited me twice this summer, but over the summer I have showed ultimate AFC moves and let her be the dominant one. I was insecure and kept telling her "I love you, I miss you.." stuff like that. When she visited me the first time, I made it all about her and was "pampering her". Then after I saw her and realized I was being an AFC, I basically stopped calling her a lot and texting her as much. After that, she felt she "had an non-exisitent boyfriend". I told her i was just finally focusing on myself. then she visited me in New york again, and we had zero spark in our first kiss. we then worked it out and now we're pretty good. we text everyday occasionally throughout the day. we dont say i love you as much anymore, but she usually is the one to say it now and she says it with a lot of meaning now.

my question is this, i go back to florida a week before school starts. she knows the day i am going back and we've planned on seeing each other when i get back right away. we also have a "family trip before school starts" planned a few days later. except, i am not sure if i should see her "right away" or should i distnace myself and hang out with other people first. but that may confuse her and upset her and i really do want to see her first, but i dont want to seem too available to her. should i hang out with her right away for a day and then tell her i want to spend time with my other friends the following days? remember, i havent seen anyone else back in florida yet for a summer. i just don't want her getting the wrong idea because before i left florida, we spent almost all our time together but now she has spent time with some more friends. i dont want to be the needy one. how should i approach seeing her to regain that control?

thanks!

Hanging out with her after your return right away does'nt make u an AFC or needy, Its show u are still her first choice of interest, while u hangout with her also make time to hangout with other friends, build a defense and add value to yourself to stay in control of yourself. Afterall being a challenge should'nt be psychological arrogancy.