Is a relationship only a fight? A constant fight?

You try to remain alpha and the girl tries to make you beta.
It is very tiring to remain alpha(but you like that position), but you have to endure all the shit(we can talk in detail about what means that shit), but on the other hand if you became beta she will lose all the attraction for you and the relationship will end.

I see what you did there.

Don't you think that giving a fuck about girl's attraction to you and how she perceives you (alpha/beta) IS the alpha thing to do? It's a huge paradox.

If it's a fight, what's the point? Would it even be fun?

I see relationships as like, a harmony. Always reward when it's deserved, and don't when it's not. She should build you up while you build her up. That's what relationships are for..

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I like your response Owinover.
Is optimistic compared to what I just said.

But what about the shit you endure?

And when I say shit I refer to this:
-Your Gf is not always available
-Your Gf disagrees with you, argues with you , wants to do something different than you want
-She is upset just to get what she wants

etc.

The list can go on and on...

Sometimes you don't escalate properly and you are more invested than her,that's where the conflict starts.Don't consider it a failure ! You learned something out of it.Next time you'll doze your investment better.
Sometimes she is not the kind of person you want to be with,but you're already invested so you can't back off(and the rationalizations made from this).Don't consider it(or yourself) a failure,you learned something out of it.Next time you'll kick her out faster.
Few people work on their "inner game",as we call it here.Also few people are good by nature.Many girls are better to be left just as friends.
Don't worry so much about conflict,just try to grow for yourself daily.
You worry about staying alpha,but alpha is in fact strong reality.Doesn't have to be the "real reality",you alone just have to believe in it.How can you gain it but by experience(also 2nd hand experience,like reading) ?No strong reality results in no solid relationship values,so you allow to be treated in a bad way by your gf,or you still game her after 5 months.
So leave the conflicts alone,and work on yourself.Experience is the mother of all.The more you have it,the less you'll have this problems.

im in the same spot as you..focus on you. its hard, im still learning it, but it'll help.