6/7/10

Today I went to a club with two friends of mine. As soon as I got in I tried to walk around to check the venue out and realized why mystery said that the dance floor is a trap. The music is so loud and it’s so packed that girls can easily choose to shut you out. So I went down stairs with my friends and we talked for a while until I saw a 2 set sitting right across from us (HB8 and HB7).

For most of the night I had AA and I didn’t know how to get past it. As a result I definitely broke the 3 second rule but it didn’t really matter I opened with an opener that goes something like this “Hey guys I need a females perspective on something, how do you guys feel about guys who wear skinny jeans?”. At first I thought I did a good job delivering the opener but turns out HB8 didn’t think so and started teasing me asking “what did you say?” with a grin on her face. Eventually I decided to practice negging on HB8 and I said something like this to HB7 “how do you hang out with this girl? She can’t hear anything.” surprisingly the neg worked and I had both girls attention for the time being. So we started talking about the topic and HB8 said that she didn’t mind guys who wear skinny jeans as long as it was baggy on the guy(which didn’t make any sense to me, probably should have negged her for it). After the opener I didn’t exactly know where to go so I ended up asking where the girls were from and it turned out they were from Holland and Germany and I said I didn’t like the German girl because of what her nation did to England at the world cup (which basically was a botched attempt at a neg). After that we had a small 30 second conversation about the world cup and although I had their attention I couldn’t find anything to say and I still didn’t reach the social hook point so I basically blew myself out of set and left.

Second approach of the night I tried to freestyle it with a situational opener when I saw some bouncers rushing upstairs with flash lights like something was up. So I go up to another two set (HB7 *2) and was like “hey did you guys see those bouncers chasing that guy earlier?” all I got was a no and got completely blown out.

Third set I did was a four set (HB6, HB7*2, and HB8). I decided to go with another opener where I say something like “Hey guys I got a question for you, do you guys find lil Wayne attractive?”. They all said no then HB8 asked why I had asked which I was all but happy to reply with what I had rehearsed so many times already “get this me and my friends were talking a few minutes ago and realized that about 85 to 95 percent of lil waynes raps consist of him getting with a girl, which means that girls find him attractive which I think is pretty fucking scary”. I thought I did it well but apparently they barley heard what I said (I have to start yelling in the club or something), so I had to explain everything I said again but they ended up disagreeing with me. I didn’t have a backup plan if they disagreed with me so although I still had their attention I had nothing to say and didn’t reach the social hook point yet so I basically got blown out of set by myself again. (not to mention I had forgotten to neg HB8)

Lesson:
Speak louder
I found out that the 3 warm ups actually work pretty well later on in the night
Openers should never really be a yes or no answer its too easy to get blown out
Probably have to start using false time constraints

Sticking point:
Getting to the Social Hook Point because I don’t have anything to say after the opener really. Im gonna have to start forming a routine stack.

Look for a bored/left out girl in a two set or a three set. Maybe she is with her friend and friend's bf or her girl friends are leaving her out of the conversation. Sneak up near her, turn around, don't wait for her to notice you, and just high five her demanding her attention. Smile playfully and make eye contact, do it very fast, turn around and keep doing what you were doing. Walk away, come back in ten minutes, stretch out your hand to her and make eye contact, again do not hesitate, do it like a basketball lay up - quick. Hopefully, she will then dance with you, you don't even need to dance well, just hold her hand over her head and let her spin around. You can high five her again afterward. I did that once and it worked.
When you are at a new club, your social anxiety will kick in. Spend a few nights at the club to get used to the loud music. When you walk in, start by approaching guys and striking guy talk conversations. Then, when you open girls, you can point to different guys and tell the girl something interesting about each of them for middle of conversation. For the end of conversation, when talking is getting boring, offer to go outside where its more quiet or say "here take down my number." and do a false time constraint.