So theres a lot of girls i see online everytime i log onto facebook and im just like i wanna start talking to her, but its not like were friends so it would be weird to not come across and completely random in a wierd way. Does anyone have any good tips on what to say to go from "we met at a party but dont talk" to IMing them on facebook and getting them interested in you?

I am experimenting with this at the moment... not much success.

Today tried going through their profile pics... find an odd photo of them and say something like this is the best pic I have ever seen of you ha!

Could wait for them to post a status update & give them a cocky/funny response

Try find a commonality or reason to ask them a questions & go straight into being playful.

Difficult one, no real stats yet to report on this...

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out of those i dont see the picking out a picture of them and talking about it.... i mean everyone facebook stalks haha, but i dont want the girl i hardly know if realize i had actually been doing it. Maybe the comment on a status thing would work though

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I normally don't allow myself to put too much stock into what advice women give. Normally they say they like one thing but respond to something else. But I read this post by a woman about 2 years ago. She was talking about how this one delivery guy had to deliver things to the building she worked at. But when done, he simply walked over and said " I just wanted to come over and talk to you for a bit" . It was something to that effect anyhow. In the blurb the woman was impressed by it and liked the way he went about things.


It just seems to be that the guy's approach would be confident, casual, and genuine. He didn't put himself out there too much. But there is a chance the woman would create the illusion she is being treated in a special way. In the seduction community, there is an emphasis put on canned type stuff. Usually there is an angle to things or some type of witty remark or a joke involved or something that makes it all very game-like.

I think sometimes we make this all more difficult than it needs to be. Usually having the nerve to speak to someone will get us in a conversation. That's all it really takes. I'm not suggesting that saying anything will get you where you want to be. You simply have to take the chances that are out there. We all crash and burn. Sometimes we only get part way in the door. You can only make your odds better but you will never hit 100 percent no matter what you say or do.

Okay, you have a few girls on your facebook you don't talk to but want to talk to them. Maybe while you are wondering if you should message them they are hoping somebody will say "hi". First impressions do count. Don't fool yourself into believing that you must be perfect those first 5 seconds. Think of it more as the first 5 minutes. Assuming the person makes any effort to be polite, you have a chance to get their attention. your first line of text doesn't have to be flawless. You get a number of cracks at this. Just bite the bullet and say something. Honestly, you can get a better first line than any I can give. I'd just say something like "Hey Nancy, we never talk and I want to change that."

If you already don't talk to them, what's the worst that can happen? They will just remain someone you don't talk to.

Ok,

So I read this post and also read the post from Greybeard must say his comment really made sense and worked I think when it come to chatting online you just have to be straight. Cocky funny doesn't work as it requires body language and funny lines can be taken the wrong way. (also negs)

So I just started chatting to this girl said hey asked here if she was ok and as it was over facebook I could just chat in a relaxed friendly way. I did throw a few hoops to she if she liked me then ended up with her number and gonna meet up sometime so thanks for the advice dude.

One thing I would say about posting funny comments on status updates is that it can easily become way to needed. I think if you do that you wanna do one funny comment then start chatting to her in FB chat. Don't be the guy that makes funny comments on every girls post I have seen these guys and they gain no attraction from it.

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Difficult one, I try to avoid speaking with girls I don't "know", but if I add some new girl, it's important to get some kind of communication/vibe going as soon as possible, be funny, just avoid needyness, be kool.

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I've been trying a lot of different methods to attract girls on Facebook, particularly the ones you know but don't 'know'

The best approach i've found is the simple and friendly route! Sometimes i'll be browsing through people online and notice a hot girl with a few mutual friends.

Obviously I want to add her but then you don't want her to think you're some creep right?

Add her and wait until she accepts or messages you asking you who you are, and say something simple like..

'Hey, I hope you don't mind me adding you. I noticed we had a few friends in common and your profile picture is really nice'

OR

'Hey, I hope you don't mind the add! You came up on my 'mutual friends' section on the side of Facebook, how are you?'

and just get the conversation going from there! I've got countless numbers and dates from this approach so its definitely worth a try!

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be friends with tthem before you talk to them online

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actually nvm. you dont need to

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Used this twice this week to open. replies both times, didnt know either, but had a decent amount of mutual friends.

*Hey, we got lots of mutual friends, but why havent I seen you around?"

*"You gettin out this weekend?"

First one resulted in some fb message exchange.

Second one got #close and face to face is pending.