Hey
This is going to be some what lenghty but I'll try to shorten it. So, I got to this Bar Club with the intention of having fun and just rocking out the place. My friends and I walked in and scoped out the place. I finished my beer and headed out to the dance floor. I danced on the outside of the dance floor, this one HB6 started dancing with me - she grabbed my hand and twirled me around and I twirled her around and she went back to some other guy. I didn't care I kept on dancing. I summoned this one lesbian to dance but she smiled and shook her head but I kept on dancing and didn't care. I got tired and talked to my friends then hopped back in the dance floor this time in the center.
I was getting in the groove of the music, not caring about who was around me using open body language moving about in a circular motion just dancing to the music. Moments later the lesbian danced facing me but somewhat at a distant then she went her way and I continued dancing. I noticed I felt like my heart wasn't beating - which was cool feeling to have. So, this one HB9 which was a really good dancer was face towards me dancing while I was dancing but then she turned her back towards me shaking her ass, so I turned around shook my ass and had a great time. She was good though. Through out the night some HB7 and HB8's would dance with me then turn their backs then go on their merry way but I didn't care. This one chick HB7 was dancing towards me smiling and she turned her back towards me in my person space so I put my hand on her hips and she walked away - no big deal, I kept on dancing.
I got tired and looked for my friends and I was standing there exhausted when a girl came up that works at Target that I use to work there and the conversation went like this:
HER: Hi!
ME: Hi...
HER: Did you work at Target?
ME: Yeah.
HER: What's your name?
ME: Paul. What's yours?
HER: Michelle. Remember me?
ME: *SHOOK MY HEAD* No, sorry.
HER: *Laughs* Where do you work at now?
(This is where I could have improved on but oh well better luck next time.)
ME: I'm not, the economy sucks really bad but I soon will be though. The target in Joliet, declined me but the one in New Lenox said they would have loved to have me back but their not hiring now.
HER: *Nods her head*
ME: Are you with some friends?
HER: Yeah.
ME: Let's chill with them.
(Messed up again, I know next time I'll remember)
HER: Their new, they don't know you.
ME: Oh, that's cool. Let's dance *Grab hand but she pulls way.* Let's dance.
HER: No, I'm just sitting with some friends.
ME: *Wave her off and continue dancing in the center of the dance floor*.
There's a couple of things I should've done in that situation but then after the job question it was getting akward, I should've excused myself like I wanted to because it was a pointless conversation. I DLV myself there and I kick myself in the ass for it. However, I'm going there tonight and trying again. I have to get better at DHV'ing. I think my honesty gets me in the way.
Any tips on how I should ease that problem let me know. Thanks!
My friends got me and we went bar hopping. Afterwards, while bar hopping I wasn't feeling it anymore - I was cranky and just not interested in anything. We went back to that bar club again. I talked to some of the staff and gave them high five asked how they were doing and if they were having a good night, then continued talking with my friends.
What I think I did a really good job was this:
We were outside talking. A HB8.5 was right by me back faced towards me talking to some guy. The guy left her, and she turned to us.
HB: I don't mean to bother you all but what kind of cigarettes do you all smoke?
ME: (Not even caring and just wanting to get the fuck out of there) Pall Malls...
HB: *Nods her head and smiles* Pall Malls... *Turns her head and asks the other guys I'm with.
Trinity: Paul, stop hogging the cigarettes.
ME: *Hand Trinity a cigarette*
Trinity: *Gave her a cigarette.
HB: I only smoke Marbolo Reds.
Trinity: Yeah but a cigarette is a cigarette. *He lights the cigarette and smokes it and moments later she takes it out of his hands and takes a puff*.
HB: Men are such douch bags. They're assholes!
Dave: I agree, I agree.
HB: You know, they're just dicks.
DAVE: Yeah, I know what you mean.
HB: Well you're a guy.
Dave: True.
ME: Men can be dicks but men just need to learn how to talk to women.
HB: Boys will be boys. *SMILES, Facing towards me*
ME: Hmm... *Body language shows I'm disinterested*.
HB: Talking to dave about something but her body is faced towards me. She leaves and talks to some guy and the guy puts his hands all over her. She backs away from him then come back.
We were about to go then I told her:
ME: It was nice meeting you.
HB: What's you're name?
ME: Paul. *Shake hands*
HB: I'm steph. *Smiles* It's nice to meet you.
Trinity: I'm trinity *Hugs her and she pushes him away and looks disgusted*.
Dave: I'm Dave *Shakes her hand*
Jason: I'm Jason *Shakes her hand*
This could go on and on and on. However, if you can see here that I observed what she hated most was that all guys were hitting on her, touching her and making her feel like a sex object. So, what I did even though I genuinely didn't give a rats ass about her still showed her that I was disinterested, which got her to stare at me while we were walking out. She was probably wondering why I wasn't hitting on her and acting like most guys do - which was great I think because that's what acting differently is all about. I should've engaged a bit more and DHV'ed a bit more. At first she started showing sexual interest to my friend Dave by arching her back and smiling really big then when he told her she looked beautiful she scoffed and shook her head.
I know I'm not pleasing the most of you guys but I'm just getting out there instead of going online like a dweeb and trying to hook up with girls. I'm gonna get a job and when I do it's gonna be great and more of a DHV for me at least because then i'll feel more confident and have more money. I know off the subject.
Anyways.
Any suggestions on what I can improve on? I know I could improve on not putting my foot in my mouth. lol!
CHAT
